Open Your Mind

2021-10-12 19:16:49 Have you ever noticed Google Maps never yells or condemns you if you miss a turn?
It never yells at you and says, "you took a wrong turn, you idiot!" or why didn't you take the last left, you moron!" or scream ", you never listen to me"!

If it did that, you would probably stop using it. Instead, it just re-routes and shows you the following best way to get to your destination.
Its primary interest is to get you to your goal and not make you feel bad about your mistake.
There is a great lesson here! It's tempting to unload our frustration and anger on those who have made a mistake.
However, the wisest choice here is to help fix a problem and not play the blame game.

So be a Google Map to all who contact you, in-office or at home or elsewhere Open / Comment

2019-09-22 16:20:28 Open / Comment

2019-09-21 18:58:36 Change Choices

Sometimes to grow and to truly change your life, you have to make difficult choices. To thrive and become better physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually often times is painful. You get so comfortable being uncomfortable that you settle for less when you really are destined for greatness.

Don’t let past mistakes or failures define who you are because your past doesn’t dictate what your future will be. When you make your plan of transformation remember to visualize… see the end goal, the end results of success. Map out your storybook of triumph.

Whether you start a business, anything major worth achieving means it will take time, discipline, focus, resilience, and determination on your part. If you quit, you never know what could have been.

When the unexpected nature of life comes at you full force – cancer, divorce, death of a loved one, job lost – it will test your faith, but in these difficult times you will see what you are made of when everything changes dramatically.

Life will often throw you off balance to the point where you start playing the pity game. Everyone has a right to take a little time to wallow in their grief. But then there will come a time when you will have to stop playing the pity game and start taking 100% responsibility for your life and choices you have made.

Your dreams and goals are your responsibility, so if you’re not where you want to be in life, don’t continue to blame your parents, boss, spouse, children, siblings, friends, government, or God. Instead, even on your darkest days, take just a moment to find a bit of happiness and gratitude.

In order to better yourself, and live your best life, you must be willing to learn, grow and change. Let go of anyone or anything that doesn’t add to your growth. To continue to have toxic people in your life or to continue to engage in negative and self-defeating actions or behaviors will put you in the same spot one year from now.

Be mindful that in your journey to transform your life you will be met with backstabbers, naysayers, those will clearly won’t see your vision, and those who will call you crazy for daring to dream big. Remember – live your life fearlessly and free.

Here are my final thoughts as you continue on with your journey to happiness, success and greatness. Never let mishaps, mistakes or missed steps derail your dreams. When you stumble and fall, you may be bloody and bruised with a few broken bones, but don’t let that stop you. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and then push on toward the finish line.

Be well. Open / Comment

2019-09-10 08:57:48 Happiness Is An Inner State Of Being

We were always taught that our happiness is dependent on something or someone. When we achieve our goal or when we make people happy then we will be happy. Our focus therefore was always to make others happy, because we thought - only when they are happy, will we be happy. Very often we could be under stress, angry or in pain, but we try to make others happy. Let us remember we can take care of family and friends, do everything for them physically, but emotionally we will only be radiating pain, because we are in pain. To give happiness to them, we have to be happy within.

Let’s clean our thoughts, clear our emotional blockages and create a happy state of inner being, because only then can we radiate happiness to others. It’s not – we will be happy, when they are happy; truth is – if we are happy then we will give happiness to them.

Let’s check how many times today we say I will be happy when ….. and change it to I am happy while …. Work towards creating your own happiness independent of the outcome. Open / Comment

2019-08-19 20:40:18 Keeping The Balance With Ease

We are all action-conscious at times, forgetting that all the actions are performed by the inner being or soul.Actions may seem to be performed by our hands; words may seem to be spoken by our tongue and everything we see and hear seems to done by our eyes and ears. But, always remember, to keep a balance of all our actions and to maintain a positive and powerful as well as detached state of mind which does not get disturbed, we need to remember one thing. The hands, tongue, eyes and ears, all of them are being controlled by the soul or the real me. I am not Mr. X or Ms. Y. That is the name of the physical body or the physical costume I wear. The real I is the invisible being of spiritual energy or non-physical light – the soul. 

With this kind of soul-consciousness, I will look at all my actions and words from a distance and not be worried too much in their involvement. Things can go wrong at times. Work may go in the wrong direction, people can at times be negative towards us and our physical body can be ill at times. Also, there will be lot of actions to be completed at times. All this will happen at times. Also, there will be days when there is lots to do. But, if we remain soul-conscious, or in touch with the inner being, remembering our spiritual qualities and powers, we will be remain at peace and in control. So, work hard, have beautiful relationships full of love and happiness and excel in every sphere of life. At the same time, remember to keep the balance by remaining introverted and detached. This is the key to contentment and a stress free lifestyle full of calmness and self-esteem Open / Comment

2019-08-16 16:28:03 Celebrating In-Dependence

We all want freedom and independence but is it only about having our own house, our own room, our own money and our own decisions. We all seek political, financial, physical and social freedom, but after having it all, are we truly independent? Let us explore our emotional freedom today. To experience independence, a good starting point is to identify our dependencies. If there is anything for which we say I cannot do without or a person for whom we say I cannot live without or a sanskar for which we say It’s not in my control, then we are emotionally dependent. Our basic list of dependencies would include – mobile, internet, television, coffee, alcohol, smoking, particular types of food, shopping etc.
A little more checking will reveal our deeper attachments and dependencies –
1. People and situations should be my way
2. People’s approval and appreciation
3. My opinion is right and yours is wrong
... we can complete the list with all those things for which our mind gets disturbed.

Let’s ask our self do we get hurt or angry always? The answer will be Depends On the person who made the mistake … Depends On what they did … Depends On how they behaved. We believe that our emotions are dependent on who they are and what they did. The truth is it Depends On our state of mind and the response we create irrespective of who they are and what they did. We are enslaved by our own belief systems and it is time to free our self and awaken to a new way of thinking and living. Swa-Rajya means to be a ruler or master over our mind and senses. In-Dependence means to be dependent only on our inner qualities and powers to respond to any behaviour or situation. In-Dependence means we have the power to give blessings to those who betrayed us; we can share and care for those who rejected us; we can co-operate with those who are jealous of us; we can be calm and soft with those who are shouting at us. Let’s create a new belief system - people and situations have No Connection to my response. I have the choice and the power to create the right feeling and behaviour each time and for each one.

I am In-Dependent. Open / Comment

2019-08-01 14:40:34 Comparisons – The Cause of Sibling Rivalry And Low Self Esteem

Children born in the same family, have similar present environment, same parents, but both are carrying a bundle of sanskars of many past births and their own karmic accounts. One could be introvert, the other extrovert; one could be brilliant at studies, the other creative; one could be sincere, the other lazy… it is because of the sanskars which the two souls are carrying before they came into the same family. Comparison between them is therefore not justified. When we appreciate one more than the other, even if the intention is motivation, it creates deep wounds. The child grows up feeling that the parents love the other child more. How much ever you try to explain that you love them equal, the wound is very deep. If one child was appreciated more, means the parents love that child more. This becomes the cause of sibling rivalry. The child considers his sibling to be the cause of his parents not loving him. This child grows up with an inferiority complex, and the other grows up with a superiority complex, and always tends to dominate the other one. Comparison and criticism become the main reasons because of which the child does not develop a strong self respect.

Never compare your child to the sibling or friends. Appreciate the qualities of each individually and help them to create new sanskars. The appreciation, motivation and creation of the new sanskar has to be done in individual capacity without references to anyone else. This helps in making the child emotionally strong and develops a high self esteem. Let us take a decision, from today to never compare anyone. Each one’s past is different and so even if everything in the present is identical, there is no comparison. Open / Comment

2019-07-29 16:29:16 Ability To Face - A Reflection Of Our Confidence And Courage

The ability to face gives us the ability to focus on the solution and resolve it, but if nothing can be done we simply accept the situation with dignity. We do not get entangled, do not magnify, do not blame or do not complain about the situation. The ability is a reflection of our confidence and courage. It does not have even traces of anger or aggression, but uses assertion and discipline. Life at times presents unpleasant situations where the ability to tolerate or accept may not be sufficient. We need to step up and face them with courage. The courage to stand up for what is right and beneficial comes naturally with spiritual empowerment. We do not fear people or situations; we hold on to our values like a compass and move forward confidently. Using the ability to face removes deep-rooted fears of our death or that of a family member. It also helps us face and cope with loss of our possessions, position or breakup in relationships, we understand what is eternal and what is temporary.

It is important to discriminate when to use the ability to face (confront) and when to use the ability to adjust –

(1) When there is difference of sanskars, opinions and perspectives we need to adjust, not confront. But today we are confronting people for such differences and depleting the strength of our relationships.

(2) When we know about our own weak or wrong sanskar, we need to confront our sanskar, not adjust. We need to constantly work on it and not give up until we finish or change it. If we give up, that sanskar grows stronger and weakens our will power. Let us pause and ask our self - Am I adjusting and living with my uncomfortable sanskars but am not adjusting with other people's weak sanskars.

(3) If there is abuse, exploitation or compromise of values and principles, we need to confront, not adjust. If we adjust and accept these for social pressures, it is a sign of our lack of ability to face. We need to rise above their influences and do what is right. Open / Comment

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