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2023-04-18 21:00:45 How to get excited about life

Create a "haven of solitude" at home

That is, your own space where everything is exactly the way you want it. Choose the most comfortable place — bedroom, balcony, bathroom, and furnish it with those items that make you feel relaxed.

Candles, fragrance oil sticks, a rug with a fluffy nap, a bouquet of dried flowers, a painting, etc.

Start a "grounding" ritual.

That is, a healthy habit to become a daily ritual that fills you with energy. It can be just reading a few book pages before going to bed, walking in a park, doing yoga, drinking a cup of tea every night in a quiet cafe. Choose your own, and such an "anchor" will become a regular emotional nourishment for you.

Observe

Keep in mind that each of us needs to talk and get through our emotions, and that we can support ourselves better than anyone else. You can try to imagine a glass wall between you and the person you're talking to. Open / Comment

2023-04-18 14:00:58 Books that will tickle your nerves

"Gerald's Game," Stephen King
The author's name speaks for itself. The guru of horror and suspense offers a tale that will give you goosebumps: the heroine, handcuffed to bed in a country house. There's not a soul around, the door is open, and the first guest to come is a stray dog...

"Recursion," Blake Crouch
A detective investigates a strange suicide: a woman killed herself because she was longing for her husband and son. Which she never had. And this case is not the last: it seems that the world is dotted with an epidemic of madness. The investigation leads to the secret laboratories of neurobiologists. Who is responsible for the mind games of thousands of people, and how to stop it?

"The Perfect Nanny," Leila Slimani
The bestselling psychological thriller written by a French writer. Based on a true story. Open / Comment

2023-04-17 21:00:39 I'm offended!

Few girls, at least once in their lives, have not used this phrase as a tool to manipulate their partner.

But frankly speaking, TOUCHINESS is often a sign of low emotional intelligence.
That is, too sensitive people don't know how to control their emotions.

A person with a high EQ subtly feels the mood of others. She or he pays attention to their intonation, is able to adjust their behavior, keeps emotions under control and never come into conflict where it can be avoided.

How to deal with resentment Increase your EQ. There are many ways to do this. Give it a try. Open / Comment

2023-04-17 14:00:55 Caution — forbidden topics!

It is nice when you can talk to your partner about EVERYTHING
But there are some taboo topics you should not discuss.

Exes.
Neither about their quantity, nor about their quality. Even if you get answers to deliberately stupid questions. Does that make sense? Oh yes, you can now torment yourself by various distorted fantasies, like "maybe he was feeling better with her," or vice versa.

Parents.
It's a very sensitive subject. No discussion.

Other people's appearance.
Especially if you like someone who has something that your partner lacks. Such talk will awaken the person's complexes or even provoke jealousy. Open / Comment

2023-04-16 21:00:35 The best teacher is personal experience, but it's expensive

However, some of us just never learn from errors they have made.
I mean, many people, having once made a mistake in choosing a partner, seek the same personality type over and over again.

Why? Where does this masochism come from?

For example, a young man in his late teens fell in love with a femme fatale. The relationship didn't work out, and the guy was badly burned. But, after that, he tried to create a serious relationship with the woman similar to his ex. Obviously, all these attempts failed.

We are attracted to the familiar type, since something already discovered seems to us the most pleasant, sympathetic, almost native. And often, this is not the case. Open / Comment

2023-04-16 14:00:49 Marriage cannot be pardoned!

A man who DOESN'T WANT to get married will remain unmarried psychologically, even if he marries.

You see

He will try to avoid his family in any way he can, from drinking alcohol and playing computer games to becoming a workaholic, cheating, and hanging out with friends.

Psychologically single man, even when married, is kind of not here, that is not with you or the kids, while you're staying together. He is absent. Many women live with such a husband and feel discomfort all the time. You can't change that - it was just a wrong choice.

So, unless you want to live with a man who will almost always be psychologically absent - never force a man to marry. You will lose Open / Comment

2023-04-15 21:00:36 Afraid of relationships

Frequently, unsuccessful relationships cause FEAR of getting into a new one.
So, life goes on and you meet interesting people, but you don't dare...

The most important thing to understand is that NO ONE can EVER guarantee that a new relationship will be perfect.
Moreover, any relationship, even the most wonderful and dreamy, may end one day. None of us is safe from the pain and disappointments of breakups

Realizing and accepting this, is the FOUNDATION of maturity!

We are not in control of other people. So the OTHER always poses a threat to our psyche.
However, the joy of a relationship is worth taking risk AGAIN Open / Comment

2023-04-15 14:00:51 Wording matters.

Sometimes we program our minds with our own words. How? Very simple!

Here's a comparison of two phrases: "I am oppressed" and "I feel oppressed." Is there a difference? At first glance, it seems like there isn't. However, these sentences have different meanings. When someone says, "I feel oppressed," he's referring to some kind of feeling. And any feeling can be changed, that is, it is possible to stop feeling oppressed.

The phrase "I am oppressed" indicates that the person has put circumstances before her/himself and is unable to change anything. Use the power of words to your advantage and always be aware of the wording you use.

Remember: you control your emotions and not vice versa. Open / Comment

2023-04-14 21:00:37 Your Own Path

If you know exactly where you're going and why, you shouldn't care what OTHERS think of you.
This is hard to achieve because you've been taught from childhood to conform to someone else's concept of norm .

But it is possible - if you have enough courage to break the rules, to distinguish your goals from the imposed ones, and not just go YOUR OWN way, but continue to follow them despite difficulties, setbacks and outside pressure

To go your own way without looking back at the opinions of others means to have a strong spirit Open / Comment

2023-04-14 14:00:55 To walk a fine line

Intimacy vs. codependence. Here's what can help you see the difference

— The desire to share your emotions is intimacy. Trying to impose your moods - codependency.

— Talking openly about what you're not happy with in a relationship is intimacy. Imposing blame on the other for relationship problems - codependency.

— Having your OWN social circle and letting the other have theirs is intimacy. NOT having any connections outside your relationship - codependency.

— Having your priorities and interests and sharing them with your partner is intimacy. CHANGING your values to suit your partner or trying to change his/hers to suit you - codependence.

The main thing is to strike a balance Open / Comment