UPSC MOTIVATION STATUS 🎯🇮🇳

2023-04-13 21:00:38 Codependent Relationships. Where is the way out?

To begin with, you need to answer the question honestly: do you really want to quit this relationship? If so, why haven't you done it yet

People want a magic pill, that is to make everything happen in one fell swoop, without pain, without working on one's self, without thinking, just WHOOSH and everything is easy and good, as if this relationship never happened.

So, it never was and never will be. This is infantile, childish thinking. You have to pay for everything. And sometimes you have to pay VERY dearly.

The first step to resolve this problem is to understand the reasons WHY you got into it. If you don't find out the reasons and work them out, you have all the chances to be trapped into the similar painful relationship again Open / Comment

2023-04-13 14:00:53 I don't judge, I accept and support.

That's because there is no single model of happiness for everyone.
I feel really perplexed when Nancy, a happy mother of many children, insistently advises Mary, a career woman, to have children, and Mary, in response, rolling her eyes and clicking her tongue, advises Nancy to drop everything and go to Japan, to the Hanami holiday.

Why do people think that there is only one happiness model - THEIR OWN

After all, the world is so beautiful in its diversity of shapes and colors. And there is nothing more foolish than trying to fit everything and everyone into one single theory. Open / Comment

2023-04-12 21:00:38 The border is LOCKED

We lock our apartment, guard our car with alarms, check if our backpack is locked, and if our wallet and credit cards are safe. But often, while keeping things safe, we forget to take care of our inner security. Each of us has our own private world. And only YOU have the right to decide where its boundaries, who to let into it, and who - absolutely not.

Healthy psychological boundaries are:
- Awareness of the value of one's opinion.
- Conformity to internal attitudes and priorities.
- Careful handling of personal information.
- Understanding your own wants and needs.
- The ability to say NO.
- The ability to respect others' privacy.

Personal boundaries serve us as a reliable FARE guard, protecting us from unnecessary intrusions and stress, and preserve our inner harmony. Open / Comment

2023-04-12 14:00:56 Diary therapy
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Nothing new, everything is as old as the WORLD.
By the way, the practice of keeping diaries dates back to ancient Japan in the 10th century, when the ladies of the court kept records of their life and love in "sleep books".
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So how does a diary work
It's a great, if not the best, tool for REFLECTION - getting to know yourself, your feelings and emotions. It's the best way to safely EXPRESS yourself - the case when pen and paper are your best friends. Paper will accept everything: your anger, your sorrow, your love and your craziest ideas.

But it is worth keeping a diary consciously, so that it is not just a remedy for your stress or anxiety, but so that it can help you understand and realize yourself more deeply. Open / Comment

2023-04-11 21:00:39 ​Love triangle - where is the way out?

A love triangle is a situation where one of the spouses or intimate partners has a relationship with someone else... that is, a romantic relationship involving three people.

Where is the way out?
Be aware of your role in this relationship. What's your role? Are you a hostage to the situation or its cause?
Analyze what you are getting out of this relationship? What are they giving you?
Consider your options for getting out of the triangle.
Whatever corner of the triangle you are in, take care of yourself, restore your emotional balance, and only then make decisions. Do rely on yourself.

MATURE men and women never be caught in love triangles - they are not interested in them and do not need them. A love triangle is essentially a triad - mom-dad-child. And these roles in a triangle flow and change from one to the other. Generally, people who find themselves in such a triangle, have not solved the child-parent conflict with their parents in childhood and are still immature. Open / Comment

2023-04-11 14:00:56 Emotional burnout — where does it come from and how to get rid of it?

It has been said about it so much, however, I have personally experienced this state and thus know how difficult it is to overcome this problem.

Basically, it happens when you give a lot and receive little, or you receive it much later. Therefore, the body accumulates tension. And if that tension lasts long enough, then the phase of emotional exhaustion sets in.

If you find yourself in this state for a long period, you need to look for a way out. It may be very hard to identify the causes and resolve problems without a psychologist, but you can start it on your own though
Recognize the problem.
Determine your state of mind by taking the Boyko or Maslach Burnout Inventory.
Listen to your body.
RELAX. Create your sleep and work schedule.
Delegate responsibilities at work and at home.

And most importantly - love yourself and don't wear yourself out, life is one! Open / Comment

2023-04-10 21:00:39 Masculine and Feminine Styles of Handling Conflict

Have you noticed
If we girls quarrel, it's SERIOUSLY and FOR THE LONG HAUL .
After that, it is very difficult for us to establish relations with each other, as a rule, the fallout from a serious quarrel remains forever.

In MEN'S RELATIONSHIP the opposite is true
Men can also argue very seriously, they tend to figure things out more aggressively, shout louder, and may even fight. However, when the issue is over, they easily return to their previous relationship.

Psychologists explain it the following way: girls usually play conflict-free games in their childhood, so they learn to appreciate harmony and friendship. Boys, playing more dynamic and aggressive games, get into conflict situations more often and quickly resolve them to get back to the game as soon as possible. Open / Comment

2023-04-10 14:00:52 Getting rid of negativity

If you keep coming back to an unpleasant event over and over again, it's worth finding an activity you can "throw yourself into". The most effective way to stop getting worked up is to exercise

Personally, any kind of routine helps me a lot. I turn on my favorite music and immerse myself in work completely. For example: cleaning the house, jogging in the park or walking the dog. Physical activity stimulates the production of endorphins, which push away negative emotions and causes fatigue that can distract you from bad experiences. Open / Comment

2023-04-09 21:00:37 Why grow up?

GETTING OLDER, we learn assessing the situation with a cool head and finding ways to solve it.
Without counting on or expecting help from others. Relying on ourselves gives support, faith and confidence even in hard times.

Maturity allows us to set priorities and refuse unnecessary things. Strong inner self-support allows us to do it quickly, without long deliberations and feelings of guilt or shame. Maturity also allows us to delegate some things. And that helps as avoid anxiety and fear that the other can't handle it.

Maturity lets us assess our state of mind and signals that it's time to take a break. The inner core allows to take time for ourselves without remorse and fear of "What will people think?!" .

The INNER CORE together with maturity helps transform fears into resources, and negative qualities into helpful ones. Open / Comment

2023-04-09 14:00:43 Learning how to forgive

Unnecessary offenses poison our lives, first of all to those who are offended.
As for the offender, keep in mind that he or she will sleep peacefully, not even feeling any concern. So it is easier and better for yourself to forgive and let go.

Some steps to do it:
MAKE THE DECISION TO FORGIVE.
The most important thing about forgiveness is to realize that YOU need it much more than your abuser.
LIVE YOUR EMOTIONS.
Respect your feelings, don't hide them in yourself, find an opportunity to live them and feel them fully. Even if not immediately, but gradually you will become much easier.
REMEMBER THE TIMES YOU WERE FORGIVEN.
Remember how you regretted your own mistakes and how important it was for you to receive forgiveness from those you offended.

Choose TO BE STRONG.
Don't let your resentment poison your life. Open / Comment