Puppet Master | Manipulation blog

2022-05-21 14:14:59 Create the illusion of choice.

We all like to think that we are free: we can choose how to act, what to wear, where to go. But more often than not, it's all a big illusion. So give it to your victim.

Forced to check the person that he himself had decided so, it made his choice.
For example, he wanted to help you: "Mike, I would ask you to stay late today, but you should not. So if you have things to do, then go.

In the vast majority of cases, Mike will of course want to help you. Even if she doesn't really want to, it's somehow uncomfortable to say no. Open / Comment

2022-05-19 20:13:09 Choose the right seat or sit your interlocutor yourself

When negotiating, it's important to have the right seat. If you need to reprimand your opponent, set up a conflict, show that you are on opposite sides of the barricades, it is necessary to sit opposite him or him to sit opposite. The position "opposite" always implies rivalry.

If it is necessary to carry out a partner dialogue on equal terms, it is necessary to sit down at an angle close to a straight line. Well, if it is necessary to have a dialogue "soul to soul", it is necessary to sit next to each other. That is how couples in love sit on benches, sofas and back rows of cinemas.

If it is necessary to have a confidential conversation with a subordinate in the office, you should ask him to sit down on the sofa, if there is one in the office, of course, before offering him a cup of tea. Or turn your chair around so that you are in a "side-by-side" position. Open / Comment

2022-05-18 22:06:20 Look dignified, but not arrogant.

I would like to point out that a pleasant appearance is advantageous, but it can also be a disservice.

The danger is this: a person dressed better than others feels powerful and often begins to behave condescendingly. And this is repulsive.

Remember, the one whom you are trying to convince, a priori above you: he has the right to say "no".
So it is worth striving to look good, but not to appear the best. Open / Comment

2022-05-17 15:10:05 Boomerang

The technique is designed to "fight" with an opponent who disagrees with your position.

The essence of the method is that to any of his objections you "return" a phrase that begins with the words "That's why...". For example, the opponent says, "I don't like this solution to the problem!", and you reply, "That's why I want to listen to you and learn your vision. *Your opinion is important to me.

The technique works perfectly when it is necessary to work with objections or doubts of the interlocutor. Open / Comment

2022-05-16 20:54:58 Personal boundaries

I love this topic so much. It's always relevant

Do you know why? Because on earth, there are a lot of curious people! And personal boundaries are something a lot of people haven't even heard of. Literally everyone who is not lazy hurries to give advice and give their opinion. Does this situation sound familiar?

Maybe some people do it unconsciously, but most people do it consciously. They understand that they are prying into their own business, and they think that their opinion is insanely important.

I will share a method for gently putting even the most pushy person in their place!
When you hear advice, admonition, or any other unnecessary nonsense, respond with this phrase: "What did you just say that for?"

That's it! After that question, you will see the person go into a stupor. How his eyes will become round and the words will disappear. Believe me, he won't answer anything. He'll just get lost in the question.

Use it and practice! Open / Comment

2022-05-15 13:54:55 Do everything you can to get a man to like you before you like him.

If you stick to this rule, you can count on something more. Although, as a rule, people look at each other "symmetrically. If you sympathize with your interlocutor, there is a fairly high probability that he also sympathizes with you. Or vice versa: if he doesn't like you, he doesn't like you either.

This is how the field of your communication with him "works. If you are afraid of him, you scare him with your behavior. And vice versa, if you are relaxed, he is also relaxed. The question is who will be the first to begin. The one who first causes sympathy for himself, at this stage already has a small advantage, taking advantage of which you can increase your chances of success.

Talk about what interests the other person. This makes a lot of sense. Talk not about what is important to you, his lover, but about what interests him. That way you can gain credibility, and you will have an advantage over your opponent. Open / Comment

2022-05-13 00:13:16 Why discipline is more important than motivation / How to get yourself to do something

Motivation, in general terms, is based on the mistaken assumption that a particular mental or emotional state is necessary to complete a task.

This is a completely wrong perception.

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2022-05-11 19:09:38 What color are your eyes?

Ask yourself this question mentally when you get to know a person. And start looking at them thoroughly.

There is no need to memorize the color (of course, if you do not plan to write odes to the person afterwards).

This simple technique helps to achieve the necessary eye contact, which will demonstrate to the interlocutor your friendliness and self-confidence. Open / Comment

2022-05-10 15:03:33 4 effective and accessible exercises for attention training

1. Count all the round, rectangular, square, triangular and oval-shaped objects in the place where you are now.

For example, in your room. Pay attention to even the smallest elements, such as patterns on wallpaper, bolts on chairs, etc.

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2022-05-09 20:27:42 Ways of Psychological Influence on People

Techniques and methods of psychological influence on people are an integral part of practical psychology.

It is practical psychology that discovers, studies, tests, generalizes and recommends methods of psychological influence on people in their life together (family, industrial, social, etc.) for use.

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