This rule is one of 46 from my book Game Changers, based on asking almost 500 world-changing people what mattered most. I used math and statistics to figure out what practices they all have in common. It turns out that gratitude is one is them. Maybe that’s why we have a day for it?.
Tonight, when you're with your family or friends, focus on how many good things you have in your life, even though there are things you can focus on that are not good.
You can put your brain in a state of safety and expansion by doing this as a regular habit. When you go to bed at night, you can focus on what you're afraid might happen, or you can focus on the good stuff.
This isn’t about being unrealistic. Things may be crappy. You can still choose where to put your focus. Where you put your focus changes your biological response, and if something terrible will happen, it’s going to happen. You just don’t need to suffer the fear of it, whether it does or doesn't happen. That's why gratitude is so important.
