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Radical Honesty
Part of 10/17

f-sacrifice – it’s just repression.
When you accumulate anger you inevitably start to resent your friends and family. You believe you’re doing them a favor by hiding your true feelings but the opposite is true. Nobody likes being lied to or having feelings withheld from them so bottling anger up only makes situations worse.
So you have to let it out. And that means letting it out as it is without trying to make it seem reasonable or morally correct.
For instance a couple once had a fight in a therapy session with the author. Anne accused David of never listening. As an example she mentioned a time when she’d come home from work stressed and he wouldn’t turn off the television. David said he’d just asked her to wait until the commercial break.
At this point both of them were looking to the author for approval wanting him to judge who was right and who was wrong. But that was irrelevant. What was important was that she was angry.
Eventually Anne articulated her anger – yelling at he