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Radical Honesty
Part of 13/17

that they’re their own person with complex feelings of their own. If you’re saying “I-It ” it’s like you’re relating to an object rather than a conscious being.
That’s why the author recommends using clear declarative statements like “I resent you for” or “I appreciate you for.” These encourage people to see their partner as a being not a thing. When you’re communicating in “I-It” mode you’ll seldom end up doing anything other than fighting.
Being honest with your partner is a serious commitment and the author recommends taking steps to make sure you know everything you can about each other. So sit down and tell each other your life stories including your full sexual histories sparing no detail. The author also recommends being completely sexually honest by masturbating in front of each other. And once you’ve done all that take turns talking for half an hour with no interruptions about what you think of each other – the good and the bad. This is what being honest with each other rea