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2022-08-19 08:55:00 There are eight different types of love relationships.

Consummate love. The couple is intimate, knowing each other well, they are able to sustain their passion for each other, and they are deeply and seriously committed.

Romantic love is when the pillars of intimacy and passion are present, but there is a lack of commitment.

Fatuous love includes high levels of passion and commitment, but intimacy is missing.

Infatuation is the type of love that is all passion; there is little intimacy or commitment.

Liking/friendship is when there is intimacy - feelings of closeness and “s/he gets me!” - but without passion or commitment.

Companionate love is when the pillars of intimacy and commitment are strong, but the relationship lacks passion.

Empty love has the pillar of commitment, but intimacy and passion are lacking.

Nonlove. These are typically brief, casual transactional interactions without emotional depth.

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2022-08-18 09:27:00 In his triangular theory of love, psychologist Robert Sternberg suggested that good, loving relationships rest on three pillars–intimacy, passion, and commitment.

Intimacy. Partners who trust each other have higher levels of intimacy.

Passion. Passionate couples can be consumed by feelings for their partner, a desire to be with them, they think about their partner constantly, and high arousal levels.

Commitment. It involves partners deciding to continue the relationship, they believe in the relationship’s value, and they make the conscious decision to avoid looking for other partners.

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2022-08-17 13:58:07 Between us Open / Comment

2022-08-17 09:58:40 Intimate relationships offer great benefits, including greater health and wellbeing, and improve our odds of survival by 50 percent.

People are most likely to thrive when they feel intimately connected to significant others.

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2022-08-16 14:27:00 Deep feelings of loneliness are commonly reported in histories of childhood emotional neglect.

Signs of adult relational trauma and loneliness may include:

Difficulty being alone—the constant need for stimulation or something to distract themselves.
Difficulty understandings themselves or their emotional needs.
Deep feelings of emptiness that may show up as ""boredom.""
Feeling worthless, or fatally flawed.
People-pleasing.
Toxic positivity.
Inconsistent boundaries.
Deep feelings of shame or guilt.

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2022-08-16 08:55:00 Research shows that participating in sports helps people develop better social skills, improves self-esteem, fosters self-confidence, improves self-control, and leads to greater competence.

Further, people who engage in sports have fewer symptoms of depression and anxiety.

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2022-08-15 09:27:00 Honesty is very much about the ability to be ourselves.

Honesty should never be used as an avenue for acting out or allowing ourselves to mistreat our partner just because we’re in a bad mood in a given moment.

Some people engage in insensitive or outright abusive behavior with the excuse of “being honest.”
We always have control over our actions and shouldn’t justify destructive behavior in the name of authenticity.

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2022-08-14 14:27:00 Between us Open / Comment

2022-08-14 09:27:00 Is it always necessary to say everything that’s on our mind?

It should be said that obviously, no one needs to say every thought that enters their head to their partner.

Being honest isn’t about being hurtful, overly critical, or righteous.
It’s possible to be sensitive to another person’s feelings while being truthful about our own.

The main way is by allowing (or rather, inviting) the same openness from our partner that we express to them.

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2022-08-13 12:55:00 Confiding is much more than being able to reveal yourself to another.

It is knowing with absolute certainty that what you think and feel is being heard and understood by your partner.

Instead, we tend to be passive listeners, picking up only those messages that have a direct bearing on ourselves, rather than listening for how things are for our partner.

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