Encounter_HUMAN

2021-05-08 04:24:55 One has to feel quite grown up inside not to be offended by one’s own more childlike appetites for reassurance and comfort. It is an achievement to know how to be strong about one’s vulnerability.- reading An emotional education by The school of life Open / Comment

2021-05-07 09:09:31 To recognize – without shame – and understand sympathetically why one has become excessively defensive are key to unwinding habits of self-protection and therefore to opening oneself up to education and improvement. We needed those defences once. Now we can afford to let them go.- reading An emotional education by The school of life Open / Comment

2021-05-07 09:09:31 Somewhere in the early years of the defensive person there will have been a sense of grave danger about being in the subordinate position, which would have inspired a flight into claims of hyper-competence. It is the task of all parents to criticize their children and break bad news to them about their wishes and efforts. But there are rather different ways of going about this. The best form of pedagogy leaves the child at once aware of a need to improve and with a sense that they are liked despite their ignorance and flaws. Yet there are also cases where criticism cuts too deep, where the child is left not just corrected but tarred with an impression of utter worthlessness- reading An emotional education by The school of life Open / Comment

2021-05-07 04:11:50 It’s very touching that we live in a world where we have learned to be so kind to children; it would be even nicer if we learned to be a little more generous towards the childlike parts of one another. - reading An emotional education by The school of life Open / Comment

2021-05-07 03:24:50 This is because we don’t fall in love first and foremost with those who care for us best and most devotedly; we fall in love with those who care for us in ways that we expect. Adult love emerges from a template of how we should be loved that was created in childhood and is likely to be connected to a range of problematic compulsions that militate in key ways against our chances of growth. - reading An emotional education by The school of life Open / Comment

2021-05-07 03:18:05 Open / Comment

2021-05-07 03:05:18 Since around 1750, we have been living in the age of Romanticism, an ideology that began in the minds of poets and artists and has now conquered the world, powerfully (yet always quietly) determining how a shopkeeper’s son in Yokohama will approach a first date, how a scriptwriter in Hollywood will shape the ending of a film, or when a middle-aged woman in Buenos Aires might decide to call it a day with her civil servant husband of twenty years. - reading An emotional education by The school of life Open / Comment

2021-05-07 02:44:54 Do you consider yourself as a romantic ? Open / Comment

2021-05-06 12:35:29 Open / Comment

2021-05-05 18:46:40 We may have to suffer alone, but we can at least hold out our arms to our similarly tortured, fractured and, above all else, anxious neighbours, as if to say, in the kindest way possible, ‘I know …’- reading An emotional education by The school of life Open / Comment