CHASTITY AND MARRIAGE 'The original sin did not wound the man | Family Matters

CHASTITY AND MARRIAGE

"The original sin did not wound the man and the woman in the same way (...) it wounded them in a dissymmetrical way, (...) "The man wants a house to have a woman and the woman wants to have a man to have a house" (...) Both want the same things but in different ways (...) they will be affected by the same concupiscences and will incur in the same capital vices, but in different ways. Both suffer from gluttony, but the gluttony of the male is closer to animal voracity, while the gluttony of the female is more refined, inclined to treats, sweets and delicacies. Both will suffer from lust, but the male will regress toward animal instinct and physical possessiveness, while the female will tend toward affective possession and spiritual domination of the male's soul.

Both suffer from anger, but the male tends to manifest and vent his anger in bodily, physical form. We could call his anger hot anger; (...) the woman tends to vent (...) rather verbally, by means of hurtful words, offenses, slander and malediction: hurting with the tongue or indirectly and cunningly harming. His anger, although tremendous, can be described as cold anger.

(...) the male tends to return to the instinctive and to the appetites of the body. In him the animal pole tends to predominate and to become dehumanized (...) sometimes he is a real "pig" (...) we see how the male tends to eat and drink in excess, even if it hurts him (...) he becomes lustful, he is incapable of dying to his sexual passion for love of his wife when in reality (...) he would make her happy.

The woman, on the other hand, tends to become unbalanced by (...) the appetites of the soul or the concupiscence of the eyes. (...) she tends (...) to "usurp the divine" (...) she is inclined to the unlawful exercise of divinity, and to the usurpation of divine providence. And not for evil, she wants good but she wants to do it in her own way. And she wants to be the one who says what is good and what is bad (...) by this way of her own good intentions, is where the woman becomes dominant (...) and sometimes she uses the passional weakness of the man to manipulate him.

That is why it has been said that the dominant sin of the male is lust and the dominant sin of the female is greed, ambition. Because of this dissymmetry of the wounds of original sin, instead of seeking the good of the other, each one tries to take advantage of the weakness of the other. And in any case, since it is not understood that it is a wound, worthy of mercy, each one ends up being irritated by the wound of the other. The woman is irritated by the physical possessiveness of the man and the man by the affective possessiveness of the woman.

The sacrament of marriage has been instituted as a sacrament of healing of the wounds of original sin in the man and the woman. And the spouses are to be, one for the other, ministers of that healing. Therefore, the wife must collaborate to heal in the husband the wound of lust, and the husband must collaborate to heal in the wife the wound of insatiable affection, the exorbitant desires of the soul and the related terrors. The healing effects of the sacrament are respectively: chastity and obedience. Mortification of the instincts in the male and of the desires of self-will in the female.

That is why a sacrament of healing was needed. So that man and woman, wounded as they were from birth by original sin, and condemned to misunderstanding and perpetual misunderstanding, could be healed and live the conjugal happiness to which God the Father had destined them "in the beginning". History proves that this is not utopia."

"The House on a Rock" - Horacio Bojorge