2021-01-13 14:54:00
Stop reacting to what people say and start listening to them instead. The desire to react will cause you to miss half of that which they address to you and cause misunderstanding to arise.
Such a desire to react is nothing but ego.
In these hurried times many people are become stressed and intolerant, the mistrust in conversation rises to a disturbing level as people seek more and more to be proved correct. And so when addressed they do not actually listen to the speaker beyond the first few words before the desire to react, to interupt and destroy flow before a point is made in order to ‘win’ a non-existant contest, to be proved right and correct before a point is even made or a sentence completed becomes almost over-whelming.
This is the action of an untrained mind lost in ego. Failure to listen is an act fuelled by fear that you may seem ‘lesser’ than the speaker. That they may know something you do not. A desire to be more ‘important’. This is a nonsense. Conversation is not a competition yet arguments arise because people simply fail to listen and correctly respect and acknowledge that which is being said to them.
To simply seek to ‘react’ is to not know how to listen in the firt place.
The world is in social discord because nobody seems to be aware of how to converse any longer. Points must be made whether the original speaker has made theirs or not and yet all your reaction will do is cause confusion and frustration in the speaker to whom you are showing a lack of respect. Allow them to finish and listen carefully.
Do not make your mind up and begin formulating a response half way through their sentence as you do not know how their sentence will end. Thus your response can have no true context as you have destroyed the context of that to which you are ‘reacting, by not listening to it. Without the full point and context you are either agreeing or disagreeing prematurely.
It is not merely rude and bad manners to not listen when so addressed, but it is hostile and creates negativity from which comes strife. Do not break the flow and do not seek to react.
Seek instead to listen fully for only then will your eventual response be accurate, honest and full of flow, true discernment and positivity.
Such is the natural way of conversation.
Have a lovely day
400 viewsMiriam , edited 11:54
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