Good conversations have lots of doorknobs 'Givers think that | Reading List for You
Good conversations have lots of doorknobs
"Givers think that conversations unfold as a series of invitations; takers think conversations unfold as a series of declarations."
"When it’s just you and me, taking turns is easy: you go, I go, repeat. When it’s you and me and Nina and Marlon, who should talk next? It’s often unclear, so we all stand around waiting for someone else to take their turn or to invite us to take ours"
"asking your partner question after question and resenting them when they don’t return the favor isn’t generosity; it’s social entrapment, like not telling your friends that it’s your birthday and then seething that they didn’t get you cake."
https://experimentalhistory.substack.com/p/good-conversations-have-lots-of-doorknobs
