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How to overcome Learned Helplessness
When a person feel that he has no control on situation, he may begin to behave in a helpless manner. It's called learned helplessness. Person with learned helplessness usually has difficulties with setting goals, overcoming difficulties, achieving success and starting the action. Nevertheless learned helplessness can be overcomed.
Don't say weak words
Don't say these words: I can't, I don't want, everything is useless, I've never done that, I'm always late/I always forget etc.
Behind all these words lies disbelief in one's own strength, anxiety and fear of failure, the lack of a positive outlook and disbelief that other options for solution may exist and be applied.
Take small steps
Set the small aim which is easy to achieve. You will be proud of yourself and can go further. When small aim will be done, it will be easier for you to set bigger goals and accomplish them.
Don't blame yourself
Most of bad things happened not because of your fault. And if it's your fault that doesn't mean that you need to stop doing anything - for example, Donald Trump was bankcrupt 4 times and after those didn't give up.
Think under another angle
In the experiment the dogs didn't try to avoid an electric shock because during the experiment they tried to avoid it several times , but since it did not work out, they stopped. If dogs thought about solutions, for example, that they can try to jump over or break the walls, it could work out for them. Same for people: sometimes you just need stop and thing about different possibilities and options.
Motivation and optimism
It's always a good booster for you to start. Objects from which people get motivation are very different and you need to find one for yourself. I usually get motivation from famous people who accomplished big goals.
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