We need to change actions, not ourselves We can't get out of some habits because we are emotionally involved in those actions. A smoker doesn't just smoke cigarettes. His whole personality is built around smoking. This habit changes his social life, affects his eating and sleeping, and his view of himself and others.
If such a person wants to quit smoking, he will have to rebuild his entire personality — the relationships and habits that have developed over the years.
To get rid of some habit, recognize that your personality — that complex thought structure created by your brain and called "me" — doesn't really exist.
There are no smokers — there are people who choose to smoke. There are no unproductive people — there are those who do useless things so far.
To change, you have to modify your actions. Gradually, one thing at a time. Forget the labels. Don't make a fuss about who you are or what others think of you. Because few people think about you.
