(2/3) The sixth: The repulsion from having many children. It | Al-Aqeedah

(2/3) The sixth: The repulsion from having many children.

It has been rooted in the minds that the sophisticated (or high-class) family is the one who has only one son and one daughter. And this has been established through many years of indoctrinating this image which you see portrayed in every commercial: A man and a beautified women who has two kids, and they all look happy!..

The seventh: Considering having more than one wife as disloyalty.

Rather, do not find it strange that a woman today considers this as a diminishment of her person and a humiliation of her. And the society considers having several wives as a breach of pact of love, a relapse in the relationship of marriage and a breach of loyalty. As if our honorable Messenger (sallAllāhu ‘alayhi wa ālihi wa sallam) was not loyal when he went out to a battle and came back with Safiyyah bint Huyay. Far away is he from this, because he is the leader of all loyal people.

The eighth: The boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

And this is an idea that has spread in the most inner feelings of the society. When a young man starts looking for a partner and not a wife. And he no longer feels the obligation of being the guardian, provider and caretaker of his wife and her supporter in her weak attributes. Rather he looks at her as a rival, and he does not do anything except before asking her and convincing her. And many of the men have completely left being the guardian of their wives, especially when he is dependent of the money that she earns from leaving the house every day to go to work.

The ninth: Going out is the basic principle and staying home is prohibition.

The woman today considers staying at home as being in prison between four walls. And the life of the woman has become similar to the life of men. They both leave their house of marriage in the morning and return to it in the evening, and none of them see any problem in this at all. So the words of Allāh the Exalted:

﴿وَقَرْنَ فِي بُيُوتِكُنَّ ﴾
“And stay in your homes.” (Al-Ahzab 33)

Have become specific for the Mothers of the Believers (and not women in general), just as the scholar of feminism say.

The tenth: Being too proud to serve the husband.

And this idea has become the center point for the relations of the marriage. Especially when the scholars of feminism brought out ideas and explained to the people that it is not upon the woman to serve her husband, and that the Messenger of Allāh (sallAllāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam) served himself. Despite the fact that there is nothing that establishes for us that he (sallAllāhu ‘alayhi wa sallam) cooked food for himself, washed a garment or cleaned a house.

The eleventh: Accepting the beautification, friendship and mixing between the genders.

This is when the woman goes out of her house every day from morning to the evening with her tight pants, decorated shirt, a well arranged piece of cloth that has the same colors as her pants which she puts on the top of her head and a little make-up to cover the flaws. Then she attends a lecture of knowledge between the men. And she stands on the raised platform in order to read a text or hold a talk with her soft voice, and no-one even feels that this is wrong. And when a man can meet another man and say to him: “How are you, O fulān. I am the colleague of your wife!!” And he answers: “Pleased to meet you!”