Lovewende

2022-08-01 18:17:20 ⁣Healthy Boundaries

Exhausted by trying to make everyone happy? Or feel secretly annoyed as those around you are taking advantage of you? You need to learn about healthy boundaries. Personal boundaries with friends might sound like this:

"Thanks for the invitation, but I want to be alone today"
"No"
"Thanks you are willing to listen, but I don't want to talk about it right now"
"I'm uncomfortable discussing others and gossiping"
"I'll call, but I can only talk for 20 minutes"

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2022-07-30 09:18:04 Don’t get angry when the time comes in your life to let go. Open your heart to that person, place, or thing, and say, “Thanks for teaching me to love and helping me to grow.” Then let him or her go, without resentment in your heart.

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- Melody Beattie Open / Comment

2022-07-29 12:45:47 ⁣Whoever writes a message and deletes it may suffer from:

- Problems with self-confidence
- Impulsivity in reactions
- Reluctance to make decisions
- Doubt and distrust
- Fear of the other side
- Trouble concentrating
- Emotional attachment
- Anxiety and negative thoughts
- Mood swings

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2022-07-28 22:21:01 When you fall in love you recognise you're not the most important person in the world, and your focus becomes another person.

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- Russell Brand Open / Comment

2022-06-23 15:12:28 The Liar Deceives Himself First
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The person who deceives you, accidentally or consciously, is always, on some level, fooling himself. Since it is impossible, without delusions, to dare this autonomic dissonance that occurs in the body while lying. And to dare the dissonance in the human being, when words do not coincide with thoughts, and thoughts with feelings.
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When people in conflict are perfectly confident about something you disagree with, or something that goes against common sense, agreements, or obvious facts, you can argue with them long and hard. Prove them wrong. Defend that two times two is four. But you can stop these futile attempts when you realize they are not cheating on you, they are fooling themselves.

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2022-06-22 14:53:49 ⁣When you feel something, it is a WHOLE body experience no matter where the emotion originates.

There are different theories out there that explain emotions from a physiological standpoint (look up James-Lange Theory of emotion to learn more).

According to their theory, our emotions happen to us physically and then, we cognitively interpret them.

Here are some key points:
⁃ Putting language to how we feel gives us control and self-understanding. It also helps us communicate to others how we are feeling.

⁃ Noticing how emotions live in our body specifically can only help this process!

⁃ In this image, the blue is described as a disengagement (think heavy and/or lethargic), and the red/orange is meant to insinuate engagement (think light, jumpy, energy).

Which resonates with you today?

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2022-06-21 08:15:58 ⁣The Danger of Pessimism

Pessimists don't see success in their actions, and the world around gives them no reason to be happy. This attitude reduces the quality of life and can contribute to the growth of depression.

Fact: Pessimists with their attitude prevent the production of endorphins, which directly reduces well-being and thus weakens the immune system. Simply put, they kill themselves.

However, you shouldn't confuse a pessimist with a realist - these are completely DIFFERENT views of life. A realist is a person who is neutral to everything going on around them. They don't let their emotions or desires affect the situation.

Do you remember that glass that is half empty or half full? A pessimist thinks it's half empty, while a realist sees it as half full.
So, a realist would just drink water from this glass to quench thirst!

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2022-06-20 14:33:19 When a woman loves you she's not satisfied until she possesses your soul.

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- W. Somerset Maugham Open / Comment

2022-06-19 14:46:17 ⁣ Read paper books

Well, I agree, a house full of books is a dust collector. But numerous studies show that information from paper sources is remembered and analyzed much better than electronic or audiobooks.

Why?
It is a feature of our brain that information is better remembered when it is perceived by all the senses. Except from the words we read, we hold a book in our hands, flip through its pages, smell it, feel the roughness of the paper, look at the cover and illustrations, etc.

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2022-06-18 19:49:52 ⁣Giving Away $350 crypto bounty! Hurry and claim yours. Open / Comment