Love psy

2022-04-10 23:33:19 Let them do nice things for you

When you do something for someone you feel good about yourself for helping. Let the person you fancy enjoy making you happy. Even if that’s just reaching for something you asked for.

Of course, this is a two way thing, you need to also show enough kindness for them to think you’re a generous person. Open / Comment

2022-04-09 23:18:04 Triangular Theory of Love

Psychologist Robert Sternberg proposed a triangular theory suggesting that there are three components of love:
Intimacy
Passion
Commitment

Different combinations of these three components result in different types of love. For example, combining intimacy and commitment results in compassionate love, while combining passion and intimacy leads to romantic love.

According to Sternberg, relationships built on two or more elements are more enduring than those based on a single component. Sternberg uses the term consummate love to describe combining intimacy, passion, and commitment. While this type of love is the strongest and most enduring, Sternberg suggests that this type of love is rare. Open / Comment

2022-04-06 23:25:24 Keep eye contact!

In normal conversation, people look at each other 30-60% of the time but when a couple are attracted to one another they will look at each other 75% of the time

Studies have found if you look at someone you fancy 75 per cent of the time when they’re talking to you, you trick their brain. The brain knows the last time someone looked at them that long and often, it meant they were in love. Open / Comment

2022-04-05 23:47:51 Do something new together

Sharing a new experience helps to make you closer, especially if it’s something exciting that pushes you out of your comfort zone.

Consider a spontaneous trip to a place you’ve never been, learning an interesting skill together at a class or workshop, or bringing something new into the bedroom. The possibilities are endless! Open / Comment

2022-04-03 21:31:51 Falling in love is like being on drugs

That feeling of euphoria you get when you fall in love is the same feeling that substance users experience, according to one study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Both actions trigger the release of happy hormones like dopamine, oxytocin, and adrenaline, giving you a natural high (that you hopefully never come down from). Open / Comment

2022-04-02 23:32:58 Our early relationship with our mother has life-lasting consequences

There is a reason why psychologists ask you about your mother.

One of the most robust findings of psychology shows us, that no matter where we are born, the past relationship we had with our primary caregiver, massively affects our adult intimate relationships, the way we handle stressful challenges, or our behavior towards our health. Open / Comment

2022-04-01 14:40:46 Resolve relationship issues together

Trust in your relationship and in both of your ability to solve the problems together. You don’t have to let other people decide for the both of you and never let them tell you what to do.

Having the power to fix whatever is broken is a sign that you can be trusted to be your partner’s strength and refuge especially during the darkest times in your relationship. Open / Comment

2022-03-31 23:49:32 Do the things you did the first year you were dating

As the months and years roll on, we tend to slink into our proverbial sweatpants and get lazy in our relationship. We lose our patience, gentleness, thoughtfulness, understanding, and the general effort we once made toward our mate. Think back to the first year of your relationship and write down all the things you used to do for your partner. Now start doing them again. Open / Comment

2022-03-30 20:07:24 Open / Comment

2022-03-29 20:17:47 Relationships shouldn't be a burden.

They should not strain and exhaust internal forces. Compromises, concessions, mutual assistance. Yes, it's all clear. But! All this should happen easily and without that moronic feeling, as if veins are being pulled out of you.

It's either easy with a person or it's not. Either good or bad. And if you see that sucks and these relationships are choking you, leave before it's too late. So far, there is not that strong affection that chains with a pound weight. Open / Comment