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2022-06-01 12:00:27 Spontaneous shopping.

You should not go to the store just for fun, otherwise there is a great temptation to buy something you like, which later turns out to be completely unnecessary. Often, when buying we are guided by emotions, not common sense, and if you know for yourself such a tendency - you should go to the store, having in hand a clear list of what you need to buy. At the same time it is necessary to limit the amount of money taken with you. In this case, if suddenly you want to buy something unplanned, but not enough money for it, you can return to the store, say, the next day, after thinking carefully whether you really need this thing. Open / Comment

2022-05-31 13:00:11 Why the ability to pamper yourself depends on self-esteem

If a person has low self-esteem, shopping for pleasure does not fit into the image that others approve of. Hence the feeling of guilt that he begins to feel every time he acquires an item that is not in dire need. The person sees himself as selfish - the same one who was condemned by his parents for wanting to sit in a café with friends rather than babysit his little sister. To the personal notions that pampering oneself is wrong are joined by memories of experiencing guilt and shame.

If a person does not have problems with self-esteem, he or she will not have an a priori belief that the ban on shopping should cause approval of others. Instead of feelings of guilt there will be positive reinforcement: bought - got pleasure and raised a mood. Open / Comment

2022-05-30 12:46:24 Nobody listens to me

Perhaps it's you who doesn't listen to anyone. Neurobiologists have proven that if you assert your point of view too insistently, you can fall prey to a kind of addiction - an excessive addiction to your own rightness.

Every time we tell ourselves we're right, the body releases dopamine, making us want it all over again. And, like junkies, we think less and less about the impression we make on those around us. Open / Comment

2022-05-29 11:00:12 I'm the only one who cares about this task.

Chances are there are other people who want to move toward a solution, but you don't know about them or don't interact with them well. Don't get stuck in the past, focus on the work.

Think about who else might be motivated to achieve the same goal, and build collaboration. This is how you can bring your ideas to fruition. Open / Comment

2022-05-28 12:01:13 I've already tried everything - nothing works.

Truth: If we never reconsidered our approaches, we would never see airplanes, cars, or any other innovations. In many areas the situation does not change for decades, until the right combination of people and technology comes together.

You have experience; you have to understand that things change all the time, and a new attempt can succeed where the previous one failed. Open / Comment

2022-05-27 11:00:10 I'm busy all the time

Truth: If you endlessly put off the really necessary things and projects, if they are drowning in meaningless trivialities - you need a reset.

You may not be managing your time effectively. Ask yourself how you can reduce the number of unimportant tasks that take up all your time and prevent you from moving forward. You can always delegate some things or hire an assistant. Open / Comment

2022-05-26 12:31:19 Train your stamina

If intemperance is one of your shortcomings, work daily to eliminate it. Even if you are insulted at the bank, stepped on a foot on the bus or pushed on the way to work, be silent. At first the temptation to put the bully in his place will be very high, but over time you will learn not to give vent to anger. By holding back now, you'll be able to hold back during the actual conflict as well. Open / Comment

2022-05-25 21:00:01 Could you distinguish your president from his look-alike?

Thanks to neural networks, it is possible to speak with the face and voice of any politician. Imagine if a teenage hacker were to speak for the president? A bit scary?

The future blowing your mind is described on the Technology Review:

— how to "undress" any celebrity in 1 click
— how to generate a photo on demand
— how to frame your girlfriend's face in a porn video

If this doesn't surprise you, you can safely knock out the Web: @technology_tg Open / Comment

2022-05-25 16:00:03 The faint of heart, don't watch!

Discovery filmed a brutal battle between a crocodile and a python. The outcome turned out to be unpredictable ...

Watch the video via the link - @s_discovery Open / Comment

2022-05-25 12:01:50 Vulnerability and complexes

Vulnerability is a natural quality of any human being. Our physical and mental state at any moment can be affected by external influences and decisions, but if we have to accept the fragility of our body as a given, then we try to get rid of vulnerability as soon as possible or at least disguise it. Why? The answer is very simple. We are afraid to show vulnerability and are ashamed that it is present at all. This part of ourselves seems wrong, stupid, ridiculous, because often it is because of it others reject, ridicule or accuse us of spinelessness. Fear of being hurt leads us to keep a low profile at work, not to take the initiative in relationships, not to dare to make changes, not to do the things we love. Rejection of vulnerability often leads to an inferiority complex, where we feel that we do not deserve praise, recognition, or even love. Open / Comment