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2022-07-19 18:33:42 Would you give up your rightness if it were ineffective?

There is a beautiful phrase with deep meaning: "The pedestrian was right, but he is dead. Most people always try to defend their own opinion by making many arguments in their favor. And when those around them finally agree with their rightness, it is so satisfying to the ego. However, proving someone else wrong is not the key to success in all cases. As the Buddha said, in some situations it is better to be kind than right. The world needs a patient heart capable of listening, not a blatant mind. Open / Comment

2022-07-18 12:00:14 Success is not your main indicator of happiness

Success and happiness are not identical concepts. Which is more important to you? Can you only become happy by being successful? Osho said, "Success is not a criterion because success depends on many things. The criterion is happiness, because happiness depends only on you." In fact, success doesn't always make a person feel happy. You can be a successful businessman but not love your business. Does that make a person happy? No. But people who follow the call of their heart will surely find happiness. Success is also much more likely. It turns out that success does not exclude happiness, but also success does not always contribute to a feeling of happiness. Open / Comment

2022-07-17 14:00:07 Stop being afraid of loneliness

When a person constantly feels unhappy in a relationship, humiliated or put down, he may suddenly realize that it is better to be alone. If the relationship does not bring happiness, but only pain and disappointment, it is a toxic relationship. Dependence on one's partner is a terrible feeling, but getting out of such a relationship manages to breathe the air of freedom anew. That's usually when a person realizes that it's better to be alone than with someone who takes all the joy out of life. The moment a person stops being afraid of being alone, he or she becomes a mature and strong person. And only then can one meet a normal partner who will not make life worse, but on the contrary, will beautify it. Open / Comment

2022-07-15 12:00:12 You talk about emotion

Emotional experiences shared do not make a person weak. On the contrary, it characterizes a person who is not ashamed of his feelings. You can share your experiences means you are probably not afraid of being judged by others, of what they will think of you. Of course, as in all rules, there are exceptions. For example, victims who don't do well, and those around them are to blame. But this is no longer a disclosure of emotional experience, but an ordinary complaint. Open / Comment

2022-07-14 12:00:05 You are striving for perfection

Perfectionism has recently been listed as one of the reasons that make life difficult. And indeed, if you always strive for perfection, then life will pass in the pursuit of unattainable results. But wanting to be better is not a vice. So if you're the type of person who tries to do a better job, but still reserve the right to make mistakes, then you've chosen the right percentage of perfectionism. You can check this by some signs. For example, do you blame yourself for failures? If no, then you are doing everything right. Open / Comment

2022-07-12 12:00:16 The Law of Investment

One of the most important laws of money. Never be in a hurry to part with your money, and before you invest, carefully study the business in which you are going to invest your hard-earned money. Money is, in a sense, part of your life, because you've spent a certain amount of time earning it. So should you be careless about the results of your work? Open / Comment

2022-07-10 14:00:07 Appearance

Probably everyone at least once in his life has been worried about his appearance. A big nose, sparse hair, freckles, wrinkles, thin lips, overweight... And this is not the whole list of things that can cause stress, not only in girls, but also in guys. Psychologist Allen Kanner and his colleagues have developed a so-called scale of "ups and downs. In it, stresses are differentiated depending on how they affect a person's life. According to the research results, the majority of respondents mentioned overweight as the main stress factor. Open / Comment

2022-07-08 12:05:08 Take a walk

A change of scenery and getting out for a walk is a great way to clear your head and switch gears.

As a 2014 study shows, boosting your creativity is just one of the positive benefits of a good walk. Walking also helps your ideas move more freely, so a daily walk will be a great way to "reset" when the same thoughts are distracting you. Open / Comment

2022-07-07 12:00:05 Focus on your breathing

If you're starting to feel overwhelmed, intentionally slowing down your breathing can help you calm down and get back to the present. Inhale slowly, hold your breath for a few seconds, then exhale again. Repeat 10 times. Open / Comment

2022-07-05 19:59:32 Remove laziness from your life

Laziness is the greatest enemy of success. It is laziness, not ignorance, as many people used to think. If you notice a manifestation of laziness, immediately do everything possible to eliminate it. How? Simply by doing what you need to do, not what you want to do. A simple example: you woke up in the morning and want to sleep more. At the same time, you know that you have urgent work to do. What do you do next? You get out of bed, wash your face, make a cup of coffee, and get to work. Open / Comment