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2022-08-13 13:00:02 Don't blame yourself if you are unproductive

Two liters of water a day, eat fruit, read the classics, get up at four in the morning, meditate, etc. Few people manage to follow all this.

Guilt only gets in the way of life and creates unnecessary stress. Here's how to get rid of it.
1. Realize that nobody's perfect.
2. Accept the fact that you have to strive for perfection, but it's unattainable.
3. Concentrate on the present. Open / Comment

2022-08-12 12:00:05 Productivity Clock: When does our brain work best?

From 3:00 to 6:00 a.m., our brain is more active. You will be full of strength and energy.
From 6-00 to 9-00 a.m. - information is very well assimilated, there is fast data processing.
From 9:00 a.m. to 12:00 a.m. - You can plan very complex tasks, brain activity has peak activity.
From 12 to 2 p.m. it is necessary to rest and have lunch.
From 2 p.m. to 6 p.m. - is suitable for solving not complicated tasks, but it is the right time for physical activity. Open / Comment

2022-08-11 12:00:04 Productivity Clock: When does our brain work best?

From 3:00 to 6:00 a.m., our brain is more active. You will be full of strength and energy.
From 6-00 to 9-00 a.m. - information is very well assimilated, there is fast data processing.
From 9:00 a.m. to 12:00 a.m. - You can plan very complex tasks, brain activity has peak activity.
From 12 to 2 p.m. it is necessary to rest and have lunch.
From 2 p.m. to 6 p.m. - is suitable for solving not complicated tasks, but it is the right time for physical activity. Open / Comment

2022-08-09 12:00:07 Be productive, even if you didn't get enough sleep

1. Exercise. Physical activity increases your heart rate. Serotonin is released, you will feel more energetic and your work will be easier.
2. Don't get hung up on lack of sleep.
3 Limit yourself to three tasks a day.
4. Eat a healthy meal for breakfast.
5. Work outside if possible. Open / Comment

2022-08-08 12:00:07 Healthy Sleep Checklist

1. Go to bed before 11:00 p.m. One hour before midnight equals two hours after midnight;

2. Ventilate the room 15 minutes before bedtime, or better yet, leave the window slightly ajar all night long;

3. If possible, walk outdoors as often as possible before going to bed;

4. Sleep in complete darkness! Excessive light suppresses melatonin production;

5. Sleep for an adult should be at least 7 to 8 hours per day;

6. Limit the use of gadgets before bedtime as much as possible;

7. Give your stress an outlet. Everyone has their own ways: do sports, take a walk, read a book;

8. Take a hot bath or shower. A spike in temperature can make you sleepy;

9. Avoid deficiencies in tryptophan, magnesium, calcium, B vitamins, vitamin D;

10. Take advantage of natural sleeping pills: valerian extract, magnesium, gaba, passiflora, chamomile, mint, basil tea. Open / Comment

2022-08-07 21:24:30 The "three-layer sandwich" method

This method is appropriate if you need to express your discontent or grievances in a safe way (for example, to a more authoritative person).

The statement is a three-layer sandwich: first you present a layer of positive information, then a layer of what you don't like or aren't satisfied with, and finish again with a layer of "strokes".

For example, if you manipulate your boss, tell him about the successful completion of the deal, then hint at the insufficient payment for the order and finish with what a fair manager he is and how satisfied you are with working under his management. Open / Comment

2022-08-06 17:26:12 Loneliness - the norm or a reason to see a psychologist?

Solitude, isolation and feelings of loneliness are similar phenomena that have some differences.

Seclusion is necessary for any person, even an extrovert. In seclusion a person can develop and analyze. It is an opportunity to replenish one's mental resources and to put all one's thoughts in order.

Isolation occurs when a person is cut off from society. Then his loneliness is an objective circumstance.

The feeling of loneliness. Just as the feeling of hunger informs the need for food, so the feeling of loneliness tells us that the need for intimacy cannot be satisfied.

Psychotherapy helps in two ways:

1) Making friends with your loneliness and learning to benefit from it.

2) Find and remove the blocks that keep you from getting to know someone and getting into a relationship. Open / Comment

2022-08-05 20:31:06 Develop your skills

This requires not only a desire, but also a memory to remember what skills you had as a child and youth, what hobbies you had. Maybe you played the guitar? Or draw beautifully? Or maybe you were a great dancer or a great singer? Isn't it time to think back and start to develop your talents, which undoubtedly everyone has? Just a few hours a week can dramatically change your life, making it richer and brighter. In addition, you will forget about the daily problems, distract yourself from bad thoughts and throw off the weight of negativity. And also by developing your own skills. You stand out from the gray mass of people who do not strive for anything. Open / Comment

2022-08-04 21:41:31 Stop expecting people to read your mind.

You probably know that people can't read minds. They will never know how you really feel unless you tell them yourself. For example, your boss might not think about a promotion unless you talk to him yourself. And a nice guy or girl will never talk to you because you're too shy: How can he or she talk to you if you're always hiding from them?

It's crucial to talk to others regularly. You just have to strain your vocal cords and say the first word. You have to tell people what you think. It's easy, you just have to start. Open / Comment

2022-08-03 13:00:14 Figure out people and your expectations.

You can date or live with someone for a long time without understanding what they really are. And it's not that he hides his true nature, but that we see what we want to see. So it is useful to analyze whether we were originally deceived about the other half. If the situation really turned out that way, then it's worth drawing conclusions. You should not start a relationship with someone who is not suitable for certain reasons (for example, in character), hoping that later the partner will change. After all, this most likely will not happen, but then there will be no one to blame, because everything was self-deception. Open / Comment