UPSC MOTIVATION STATUS 🎯🇮🇳

2022-05-11 21:02:03 Recommendations for self-education

Prepare a learning atmosphere
The environment is much more important than you think. What you surround yourself with can either encourage the desire to learn, or do the opposite.

Note helpful material
This skill is called active reading. After reading the book, reread all the selected information — doing so will help memorize and not forget the general plot or idea of the book.

Apply carious learning techniques
Cross-training is extremely useful. Even if you're crazy about books, don't get hung up on them:
• Read magazines;
• Watch documentaries;
• Read articles on the topic.

Don't believe everything you read
Even if you find the most convenient sources to study from, you should never think that all the information in them is 100% authentic. When you read different textbooks, some of them may contradict each other. Do an in-depth study to find the silver lining. Open / Comment

2022-05-11 17:02:02 How to gain the upper hand in an argument?

Very easy. Start accusing your opponent of something.

"You just don't respect me!"
"Why are you raising your voice?!"
"You don't understand me!"

The main thing I advise is to say phrases of this kind as calmly as possible. And the cherry on the cake is your beautiful French exit, that is, suddenly turn around and leave without saying goodbye after one of the phrases. And no, you will not look like a fool. Open / Comment

2022-05-11 14:02:03 Daring

Who of us hasn't fallen for such scams just to prove that he or she can?

Everyone has been bait in this way, even me.

However, even this manipulation can be carried out differently, including so that it is followed without even blinking an eye.

"Look, I don't think you're up to this job, why don't you ask someone else?"

In this case, it would be just a challenge. And how about proving yourself to others

So you can start practicing at home, and then you can catch bigger fish. Open / Comment

2022-05-10 21:02:03 Watch the head position carefully!

If a person tilts or turns their head when asked a direct question, it most likely indicates that she or he is lying.

I say "most likely" because it is not always a reliable indicator. However, more often than not, the head tilts back or turns to the side just before the question.

But also don't forget to watch the facial expressions. Open / Comment

2022-05-10 17:02:03 Leaning to expose the liar

Did you take my computer yesterday?
No, I didn't.

And now let's ask the same question again, while leaning toward the opponent. And if you're sitting, it's more effective to stand up and ask the question while leaning over the interlocutor.

Why does it work
Because it's psychological pressure and breaking social boundaries. This is how the brain under pressure begins to produce truth.

So I advise you to try this method, you can start with children if you feel they are lying. Open / Comment

2022-05-10 14:02:03 The best defense against manipulation

Our brain has a kind of initial setup that protects us from manipulations, and this barrier keeps us from getting manipulated in some cases. However, there's a number of much more cunning people who try to hack all these mechanisms.

Let's take marketing and sales departments, for example. Everything in a regular store is used against the customer. Narrow passages, loud music, all of that push the defense settings and turn off the controls. And the final blow comes from the salesperson who forces you to make a quick decision.
I advise avoiding immediate and impulsive decisions.

And the greatest defense against negativity propagated by media is media education. Open / Comment

2022-05-09 21:02:02 Passive Aggression

A very common manipulation among those who try to hide their true aggression but express it in a passive manner instead. It may look like sarcasm, but sarcasm does not imply humiliating others.

"The dinner was really delicious, but I see there is no salt in this house."
And sometimes, people using passive aggression, don't even notice obvious harm.

So my advice would be either not to react to such things at all, or to respond in the same manner.

"Salt is only for welcome guests in this house." Open / Comment

2022-05-09 17:02:03 ​Destructive thoughts that make us unhappy
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"I don't deserve to be happy! No one will ever love me! I won't be able to achieve anything! I can't do anything!"

These thoughts destroy aspirations and opportunities. Instead of taking active action, you wallow in sadness about something that hasn't even happened yet. This makes your thoughts come true. Negative thoughts always have roots, that is the situation in which they originated and which triggers them.

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The brain tries to hide painful memories from us, so we "forget" them. But they don't go away completely, they are stored in deeper levels and sometimes remind us of themselves in the form of automatic thoughts. Our memory stores everything: guilt, resentment, pain, shame, disappointment, etc. To work through these situations is to release the old emotions and free ourselves from their painful influence.
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That's what makes us happy - FREEDOM.
Freedom from stereotypes, from other people's influence, from negative emotions. The freedom to be yourself and to enjoy the life you've always wanted. Open / Comment

2022-05-09 14:02:03 Listening to yourself - why it's SO important

People with low self-perception often find themselves in abusive situations.
They can play the role of both the aggressor and the victim. It is difficult to say which is more horrible, though: to do it to someone else or to do it to yourself.

Self-violence is also violence, isn't it?
The best way to prevent it is to pay attention to your vulnerability and powerlessness as markers of own limits. Open / Comment

2022-05-08 21:02:01 Do you believe in fairy tales?
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There's one that most people believe in.
It is that if you are bad and hence behave badly, you will either be punished or, what's worse, rejected.
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Fear of being rejected and punished is usually activated when you need to assert your limits, defend yourself, prioritize your needs, set your expectations and attitudes.
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Why is it so scary?
Because at this point you are looking at the situation through the eyes of a frightened child, not as an adult.
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Who can punish the adult?
Who can abandon him?
Can anyone abandon a self-sufficient person who knows how to take care of her or himself and take responsibility for her/his own life?
How is it possible to punish someone who knows how to set boundaries?
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That's right, no way. Open / Comment