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2021-11-22 02:00:38 Open / Comment

2021-11-06 14:37:41 A MOTHER'S ADVICE TO HER DAUGHTER BEFORE MARRIAGE

“Oh my dear daughter, take from me these 10 qualities; they will be for you a stored treasure and a reminder:

1 • Accompany him with contentment and live with him in a good manner.

2 • Listen to him and obey him.

3 & 4 • Take care of his eyes and take care of his nose, so do not let him see anything ugly from you and only let him smell pleasant smells from you. Kohl is the best beautification while water is the sweetest of the rare perfumes.

5 & 6 • Pay attention to his meal times and be quiet during his sleep moments, because the heat of hunger is like a burning flame and disturbing his sleep will anger him.

7 & 8 • Take care of his home and his wealth and look over him, his servants, and his children. Protecting his wealth shows good judgement, while watching over his servants and children shows good management.

9 & 10 • Do not expose his secrets and do not disobey his command. If you expose his secrets, he will never feel safe with you, and if you disobey his command, his heart will boil with anger towards you.

“Beware of showing happiness in front of him when he is sad, and do not express sorrow in front of him when he is happy. In the first scenario, it shows negligence, and the second scenario will cause him sadness.

Show him utmost respect and the utmost honour, and agree with him as much as possible; this will increase your companionship. And know— you will not attain what you love until you prefer his happiness over your happiness and his desires over your desires concerning what you like and dislike. May Allāh grant you what is best.”

Book: A message Exclusively to the Muslim Woman
By Shaykh Jamāl al Hārithi
Translated by Rasheed Barbee
Authentic Statements Publications
P. 31, 32 Open / Comment

2021-11-02 17:25:34 UMM SALAMAH HIND BINT ABĪ UMAYYAH BIN AL-MUGHĪRAH

Umm Salamah said to Abū Salamah, “It has reached me that if a woman’s husband dies and he is from the inhabitants of Paradise and she does not remarry, Allāh will reunite them in Paradise. So come here; make a covenant that you will not marry after me, and I will make a covenant that I will not marry after you.” He said, “Will you obey me?” She replied, “Yes.” He said, “When I die, remarry. O Allāh, provide Umm Salamah with a man better than me after me, a man who will neither disgrace her nor harm her.” When Abū Salamah died, she said, “Who is better than Abū Salamah?!” After her mourning period, it was not long before the Prophet ﷺ proposed to her through her nephew.

Book: The Illustrious Women of Islām From The First Generation
Taken from: Siyar A'lam an-Nubalā'
By Imām adh-Dhahabī & Al-Isābah fi Tamyīz as-Sahābah by Ibn Hajar al-'Asqalānī
Translated by Rasheed Barbee
Authentic Statements Publications
P. 29 Open / Comment

2021-10-28 23:23:26 ASK THE CREATOR NOT HIS CREATION!

When one complains he is giving the message that he wants others to help him by either stopping whatever is hurting him or by doing something to help him. The servant has been commanded by his Lord to ask Him alone, not His creation.

'Umar Ibn al-Khattāb (radiyaAllāhu'anhu) used to read in the morning prayer (fajr):

إِنَّمَآ أَشْكُوا۟ بَثِّى وَحُزْنِىٓ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ

"I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allāh."

[Yūsuf 12:86]

Book: Gardens of Purification
By Shaykhul-Islām Ibn Taymiyyah
Translated and Published by
Dār as-Sunnah Publishers
P. 166, 167 Open / Comment

2021-10-26 11:55:27 DIVISION BETWEEN YOUR WIVES

If you fix your affairs and your division between your wives with justice and you become pious towards Allaah in all of your conditions, Allaah will forgive you for your inclination towards some of your women.

Book: Supporting The Rights Of The Believing Women
By Umm Salamah As-Salafiyyah
Tarbiyyah Bookstore Publishing
P. 127 Open / Comment

2021-10-25 01:23:50 DO NOT BREAK HER HEART

He should keep whatever problems are between him and his wife private. He should try his utmost to cover things up so that he does not break her heart or shatter her soul.

Book: Supporting The Rights Of The Believing Women
By Umm Salamah As-Salafiyyah
Tarbiyyah Bookstore Publishing
P. 110 Open / Comment

2021-10-02 11:56:38 BE EASY WITH YOUR WIFE

O you husband! It is not from good companionship that you overburden your wife and wear her out in fulfilling your rights upon her, but rather that you behave in the proper way and overlook some of your rights in order to fulfill that which is important, which is good companionship and being easy with your wife.

Book: Supporting The Rights Of The Believing Women
By Umm Salamah As-Salafiyyah
Tarbiyyah Bookstore Publishing
P. 76 Open / Comment

2021-10-02 09:38:47 RESPECT AND APPRECIATE HER!

From her rights is that you respect her, appreciate her and the work that she does. When you notice with pleasure and happiness what she has done, it motivates her to do more good deeds.

The Messenger of Allaah (ﷺ) said:

"Allaah does not thank the one who does not thank the people."

* Aboo Daawood with an authentic chain.

Book: Supporting The Rights Of The Believing Women
By Umm Salamah As-Salafiyyah
Tarbiyyah Bookstore Publishing
P. 111 Open / Comment

2021-10-02 09:28:34 THE JEALOUSY OF THE MAN FOR HIS WIFE

The meaning of jealousy is that a man protects the woman from speaking with men who are not a Mahram for her, gazing at them, adorning herself for them, and unveiling herself in front of them. The meaning is not that you question her in her religion and her honor and spy on her.

Book: Supporting The Rights Of The Believing Women
By Umm Salamah As-Salafiyyah
Tarbiyyah Bookstore Publishing
P. 106 Open / Comment

2021-09-17 00:51:49 GOOD TREATMENT OF OTHERS

Good manners with the people are comprised in connecting with those who have severed their ties with you by greeting and honouring them, praying and seeking forgiveness for them, and praising and visiting them. They also involve giving to those who have refused to give their knowledge, help, or money to you, and pardoning those who have wronged you by harming your person, wealth, or honour.

Book: Gardens of Purification
By Shaykhul-Islām Ibn Taymiyyah
Translated and Published by
Dār as-Sunnah Publishers
P. 153 Open / Comment