Human Nature

2022-05-09 22:01:55 12 UNIVERSAL LAWS

1. Law of Divine Oneness: Everything is connected

2. Law of Vibration: Everything has a unique vibrational frequency

3. Law of Attraction: What is like unto itself is drawn

4. Law of Correspondence: As above, so below

5. Law of Action: Manifestation requires aligned action

6. Law of Cause & Effect: Every action has a consequence

7. Law of Compensation: We are rewarded for right action

8. Law of Perpetual transmutation of Energy: Energy is always moving and always changing

9. Law of Relativity: It's all relative

10. Law of Polarity: There are two sides to everything

11. Law of Rhythm: Nothing is permanent

12. Law of Gender: Manifestation requires a balance of energies

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2022-05-05 16:05:01 ENVY

We humans are naturally compelled to compare ourselves with one another. We are continually measuring people’s status, the levels of respect and attention they receive, and noticing any differences between what we have and what they have. For some of us, this need to compare serves as a spur to excel through our work. For others, it can turn into deep envy—feelings of inferiority and frustration that lead to covert attacks and sabotage. Nobody admits to acting out of envy. You must recognize the early warning signs—praise and bids for friendship that seem effusive and out of proportion; subtle digs at you under the guise of good-natured humor; apparent uneasiness with your success.

With envy comes the secret desire to hurt, wound, or steal from the envied person, to right the unfairness that comes with his or her supposed superiority. Envy is a painful emotion, an admission of our own inferiority, something rather unbearable for us humans. It is not an emotion we want to sit with and brood over. We like to conceal it from ourselves and not be aware that it motivates our actions. The potter envies the potter, the craftsman the craftsman, the writer the writer.” If you experience success, those in your field who have similar aspirations but who are still struggling will naturally feel envious. You should be reasonably tolerant of this because if the tables were reversed, you would probably feel the same. Do not take so personally their faint praise and veiled criticisms. But be aware that among some of these peers envy can turn active and dangerous.

If you find yourself under an envy attack, your best strategy is to control your emotions. It is much easier to do this once you realize that envy is the source. The envier feeds upon your overreaction as material to criticize you, justify their actions, and entangle you in some further drama. At all costs, maintain your composure. If possible, get some physical distance as well—fire them, cut off contact, whatever is possible. Do not imagine you can somehow repair the relationship. Your generosity in trying this will only intensify their feelings of inferiority. They will strike again. By all means defend yourself from any public attacks or gossip that they spread, but do not harbor revenge fantasies. The envier is miserable. The best strategy is let to them stew in their “cold poison” from a distance, without any future means of wounding you. Their chronic unhappiness is punishment enough.

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2022-05-03 23:35:54 Meeting Challenges

People who show more resilience are less emotional in general, but the pain is no less for resilient people than it is for others; it is a matter of how they choose to use it. The pain may continue, even over a whole lifetime, but for these people it raises a challenge that they decide to meet. The challenge is to overcome what has happened, to find strength in the experience instead of letting it defeat them, and to use the strength to move defiantly forward. Adopting this attitude depends on the quality of your self-love. If you feel terribly gripped by insecurities, your moments of resilience will be shallow. What you need is a complete acceptance of your character, including your flaws, which you can see clearly but even appreciate and love. From a position of genuine inner strength and resilience, you can more easily direct your attention outward.

Think of it in this way: such strength comes from deep within the core of the person. It could stem from a mixture of certain factors—genetics, secure parenting, good mentors along the way, and constant improvement. Whatever the cause, this strength is not something displayed on the outside in the form of bluster or aggression but manifests itself in overall resilience and adaptability. Resilience is like a good piece of metal—it can give and bend but still retains its overall shape and never breaks.

The strength emanates from a feeling of personal security and self-worth. This allows you to take criticism and learn from experiences. This means you do not give up so easily, since they want to learn how to get better. You are rigorously persistent. Resilient people are open to new ideas and ways of doing things without compromising the basic principles they adhere to. In adversity they can retain their presence of mind. They can handle chaos and the unpredictable without succumbing to anxiety. They keep their word. They have patience, can organize a lot of material, and complete what they start. Not continually insecure about their status, they can also subsume their personal interests to the good of the group, knowing that what works best for the team will in the end make their life easier and better.

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2022-04-29 13:49:40 Pursue Less

It takes work to simplify one’s life, and perhaps that’s why most people are engaged in the undisciplined pursuit of more rather than less. Saying no is uncomfortable, so by default they say yes to new obligations. They don’t pause and ponder on how they use up their energy because it takes too much work. There’s always something urgent to do, and hence they never take the time to deliberately eliminate what’s unessential in their lives so they can focus on what matters.It’s particularly important to remedy a situation in which your non-priorities dominate your priorities.

When you stop and really think about it, conventional life advice—all the positive and happy self-help stuff we hear all the time—is actually fixating on what you lack. It lasers in on what you perceive your personal shortcomings and failures to already be, and then emphasizes them for you. Our culture today is obsessively focused on unrealistically positive expectations: Be happier. Be healthier. Be the best, better than the rest. Be smarter, faster, richer, sexier, more popular, more productive, more envied, and more admired. Be perfect and amazing, the world is constantly telling you that the path to a better life is more, more, more—buy more, own more, make more, more more, be more.

If you want to retain control over your life, embrace the strategy of deliberately pursuing less. Instead of thinking how you can add more to your life, figure out what you can eliminate from it, in order to make more time for what matters most for you. The key to a good life is to care less about more; it’s wanting less, wanting what's really true and immediate and important and of course, not caring about people's judgement of how much you have or don't have. This does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.

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2022-04-28 10:59:08 Our Blind Spot

This is the blind spot in human nature: we are poorly equipped to gauge the character of the people we deal with. Their public image, the reputation that precedes them, easily mesmerizes us. We are captivated by appearances. If they surround themselves with some alluring myth, we want to believe in it. Instead of determining people’s character—their ability to work with others, to keep to their promises, to remain strong in adverse circumstances—we choose to work with or hire people based on their glittering résumé, their intelligence, and their charm. But even a positive trait such as intelligence is worthless if the person also happens to be of weak or dubious character. And so, because of our blind spot, we suffer under the irresolute leader, the micromanaging boss, the conniving partner. This is the source of endless tragedies in history, our pattern as a species.

At all costs, you must alter your perspective. Train yourself to ignore the front that people display, the myth that surrounds them, and instead plumb their depths for signs of their character. This can be seen in the patterns they reveal from their past, the quality of their decisions, how they have chosen to solve problems, how they delegate authority and work with others, and countless other signs. A person of strong character is like gold—rare but invaluable. They can adapt, learn, and improve themselves. Since your success depends on the people you work with and for, make their character the primary object of your attention. You will spare yourself the misery of discovering their character when it is too late. Character is Destiny: Character, then, is something that is so deeply ingrained or stamped within us that it compels us to act in certain ways, beyond our awareness and control.

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2022-04-26 11:33:47 The Art of being Smart

Make problems easier to solve. Turn complicated problems into simpler ones. Eliminate everything except the essentials. Break down a problem into its components but look at the problem holistically. Draw a picture of the problem. Put down on a paper the key factors and their relationship. Try to approach complex tasks by first disposing of the easy decisions. Be problem-oriented. Not method-oriented. Use whatever works. Why? Because the result is what matters, not the method we use to arrive at it. Look for good enough solutions appropriate to the problem at hand. Not perfection and beauty.
Make fewer and better decisions. Why? Because it forces us to think more on each decision and thereby reduces our chance of mistakes. It's just too hard to make hundreds of smart decisions.

"The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook." You've got whole categories of things you just bat away so your brain isn't cluttered with them. That way, you're better able to pick up a few sensible things to do." Often we try to get too much information, including misinformation, or information of no use to explain or predict. We also focus on details and what's irrelevant or unknowable and overlook the obvious truths. Dealing with what's important forces us to prioritize. There are often just a few actions that produce most of what we are trying to achieve. There are only a few decisions of real importance.

More information doesn't equal more knowledge or better decisions. And remember that today, we not only have access to more information, but also misinformation. "The harder you work, the more confidence you get. But you may be working hard on something that is false". "It is of the highest importance in the art of detection to be able to recognize, out of a number of facts, which are incidental and which vital." Turn off the noise or what's irrelevant and look at the big picture. Ask: Why am I doing this? What really matters? What is important for what I want to achieve? Will more information affect my decision? Don't collect data randomly. Start with why the particular information is needed in the first place, then go through it smartly.

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2022-04-23 09:30:34 Improving Self-Control: Use your Other Hand

One interesting exercise to improve your self-control is to start using your other hand for the things you usually do with your dominant one. For example, use your non-dominant hand for brushing your teeth, pouring drinks into a cup, washing yourself, doing the dishes, opening jars, stirring coffee, or opening doors. Psychologist Thomas Denson had people use their non-dominant hand for two weeks for any task that was safe to do that way. After two weeks, people in the group using the non-dominant hand controlled their aggression better.

What does it have to do with self-control? It’s because aggression, or virtually any other thing you control by exerting self-discipline, is an impulse. Just like you automatically open doors with your dominant hand, so do you impulsively reply with anger, grab a cookie, or choose the elevator instead of the stairs. Conscious change in your automatic behaviors, such as intentionally using your non-dominant hand, can then help you improve your ability to control impulses, and by extension, make you more self-disciplined. I know, it’s a wild theory, but why not try it? Even if it only produces small improvements, it’s still a fun experiment.

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2022-04-21 11:14:16 Some Important Axioms

If you put a spoonful of wine in a barrel full of sewage, you get sewage. If you put a spoonful of sewage in a barrel full of wine, you get sewage.

Efficiency is a highly developed form of laziness.

The sooner you fall behind, the more time you will have to catch up.

If only one solution can be found for a field problem, then it is usually a stupid solution.

If the enemy is in range, so are you.

If you're short of everything but the enemy, you're in a combat

Never forget that your weapon is made by the lowest bidder.

Nothing is ever a complete failure; it can always serve as a bad example.

Experience is a wonderful thing. It allows you to recognize a mistake each time you repeat it. Experience is something you don't get until just after you need it.

Never ask the barber if you need a haircut or a salesman if his is a good price

People are divided into two groups — the righteous and the unrighteous — and the righteous do the dividing.

If you view a problem closely enough, you will recognize yourself as part of the problem.

A big enough hammer fixes anything

A man with one watch knows what time it is. A man with two watches is never sure

He who hesitates is probably right.

Don't take life too seriously; you won't get out of it alive.

Whatever it is that hits the fan will not be evenly distributed.

Life is a series of very rude awakenings.

There's never time to do it right, but always time to do it over.

The solution to a problem changes the problem.

The chief cause of problems is solutions.

Success always occurs in private, and failure in full view.

When you starve with a tiger, the tiger starves last

We are born naked, wet and hungry. Then things get worse.

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2022-04-18 22:19:57 Adopt a Generous Spirit

We all carry with us traumas and hurts from early childhood. In our social life, as we get older, we accumulate disappointments and slights. We are often haunted by a sense of worthlessness, of not really deserving the good things in life. We all have moments of great doubt about ourselves. These emotions can lead to obsessive thoughts that dominate our minds. They make us curtail what we experience as a way to manage our anxiety and disappointments. They make us turn to alcohol or any kind of habit to numb the pain.
Without realizing it, we assume a negative and fearful attitude toward life. This becomes our self-imposed prison.

But this is not how it has to be. We can free ourselves. It comes from a choice, a different way of looking at the world, a change in attitude. This freedom essentially comes from adopting a generous spirit—toward others and toward ourselves. By accepting people, by understanding and if possible even loving them for their human nature, we can liberate our minds from obsessive and petty emotions. We can stop reacting to everything people do and say. We can have some distance and stop ourselves from taking everything personally. Mental space is freed up for higher pursuits. Once we feel the exhilarating power from this new attitude, we will want to take it as far as possible.

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2022-04-17 16:55:43 Bullet Hole

There is nothing more deceptive than an obvious fact. We identify the wrong cause because it seems the obvious one based on a single observed effect. Obviousness is always the enemy to correctness. We tend to ignore alternatives, and therefore we fail to make appropriate comparisons. Often we only consider information or evidence that is presented or available and don't consider that information may be missing. What works in one situation may fail in another.

Often the same attributes are used to explain both success and failure. For example, when a company is successful, the media say that it is because of its focus and great leadership. When performance goes down, they report that the company became less focused and its leadership deteriorated. While there may be evidence that the company is less focused or has worse leadership than before, it could just as well be that the competition has gotten better. Business performance is relative, not absolute. The performance of a business is always influenced by what its competitors do. Even if a company gets better in many areas, market share and profits may decline if the competition does things even better. And even if a company gets worse in many areas, market share and profits may increase if competition does things even worse.

"Look at where the bullet holes are and put extra armor every place else. " During World War II, the statistician Abraham Wald tried to determine where one should add extra armor to airplanes. Based on the patterns of bullet holes in returning airplanes, he suggested that the parts not hit should be protected with extra armor. How could he reach that conclusion? Because he also considered planes that didn't return. Assume that all planes had been hit more or less uniformly. Some planes hit in marked areas were still able to return. This means that planes that didn't return were most likely hit somewhere else - in unmarked places. These were the areas that needed more armor.

Sometimes, in fact most times, we just have to think counter-intuitively to what our normal human nature is prone to. This is the secret of great generals and successful entrepreneurs and persons, Seeking Anomaly, neglecting the bullet hole, ignoring the obvious, disregarding the convinent, desire for alternatives.

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