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2022-10-24 13:10:29 Open / Comment

2022-10-24 13:01:47 Smart conversationalist.

Make your interlocutor feel smart - and not just smart, but smarter than you Once he believes that, he will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives.

Meanwhile, you can discreetly "push through" your ideas, forcing him to do what is beneficial to you. At the same time, don't forget that other people, in relation to you, can also use these tactics. Open / Comment

2022-10-23 17:05:16 Sunday moping: why we are sad at the weekend. Part 2

How to stop moping?
If every Sunday without exception is filled with sadness, worry, tension, it is important to understand what is going on inside us.

1. Understand the reasons for moping
If unpleasant feelings are associated with the beginning of a new work week, we may have reason to be dissatisfied with our professional sphere, work duties or constant stress.

In this case, it makes sense to think about whether we are satisfied with our work, and to reassess our priorities in relation to our professional and private responsibilities, trying to free up a little more time for our own interests. If, on the contrary, the moping is caused by dissatisfaction with oneself or personal relationships, it is necessary to "blow off steam", to let the negative emotions out and try to determine their nature.

2. Find ways to fill the emptiness
Take more time for your hobbies, improve your skills in an interesting activity, postpone to Sunday those entertainments that you usually do on Saturdays...

If the reason is in a relationship with your partner or family, it is worth to evaluate the current situation and revise some of your habits. Perhaps this will be the starting point for change in your personal life and bring you closer to a sense of satisfaction. Open / Comment

2022-10-23 17:05:11 Sunday moping: why we are sad at the weekend. Part 1

Every week we look forward to the weekend, but as soon as it arrives, we sink into despondency and gloomy thoughts. We finally get to spend time with loved ones, meet friends, and have a quality vacation, but instead we suffer and think about work. Why does this happen?

Who suffers from Sunday moping?
This condition is primarily experienced by people whose weekdays and weekends are strikingly different. So, from Monday to Friday they do a lot of things at once, and on Saturday and Sunday they prefer to relax at home.

Why does sadness appear?
Such a condition can be partly explained by a slump in stress, which entails fatigue, boredom, and sadness. Completely free days, on the other hand, shed light on a deep sense of emptiness and discontent that otherwise seems to be hidden by routine. Open / Comment

2022-10-22 21:28:20 How to restore the relationship with a loved one

Step one: try as much as possible to remember or write down what words, emotions and expressions the person operates when explaining the reasons for breaking up with you.

Step Two: Use the method of content analysis. You need to "find" as many words as possible that the person with whom you want to have a relationship, often uses in his speech. They expose our unconscious, which is what we pay the most attention to. By using these same words while talking to the person, you can step by step rekindle their interest in your interaction.

Step three: Understand that you have more than one attempt to restore your relationship with your loved one. Imagine that each time you make an effort to do so, you are reducing the gap between you step by step. Restoring a relationship is painstaking work, but if you really want to do it, be strong and patient. Open / Comment

2022-10-20 21:14:34 Don't give me orders!

If you don't want people to scatter from you like cockroaches when the lights turn on, follow this advice.

People don't like to be bossed around. The person you're talking to will start to resist and be stubborn.

So instead of saying, "Go call the client," use, "Please call this client and clear up the details of the deal." This way, the chance that the request will be heard increases. Open / Comment

2022-10-20 11:09:42 What's the best way to get rid of envy?

Faced with being annoyed by other people's success, looks, and other things?

There are several ways to overcome it:

Find the subject of envy.
What exactly is causing this feeling: a good husband, a job, expensive things? Find it and, discarding all the feelings, get to the realization of the desired goal.

Get rid of the envious environment.
It helps not to live in constant thoughts that everything around you is bad and the world is unfair. Choose people who are inclined to get what they want, and not to talk in vain.

Envy is a two-way process
Some people deliberately provoke this attitude toward themselves, trying to shut out their own complexes. They purposely show you that they are cooler than you and that they are doing great. Don't be fooled by this.

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2022-10-19 22:27:59 Do you learn new things easily?

There are probably people in your community who can suddenly start studying Latin, later switch to a course on the history of ancient Greece, and then go on to a second degree in art history. And some people are quite sufficient in school and university knowledge and do not want to learn something new. At the same time, such people may surprise you with their depth of knowledge on a particular issue. Open / Comment

2022-10-18 12:35:06 Living in Chaos: How Clutter Affects Us

Why is it so hard to part with things? Many people prefer to make a mess at home, instead of getting rid of everything superfluous and creating space. The peculiarities of people's relationship with the world of things were studied by several universities at once.

What happens to us when we live in chaos? Let's find out in this article.

In the meantime, let's tell you various facts about disorder:

The negative effects of clutter are.
1. perception of danger
2. Feeling of stress.
3. Harmful eating behavior
4. Tendency to be stingy

The benefits of clutter
1. creativity
2. Speed to novelty

Why is it so hard to get rid of unnecessary things?
1. emotional attachment.
2. Pathological hoarding Open / Comment

2022-10-12 12:45:11 5 family crises: how to get to the next level of relationships

"Marriage is a long conversation punctuated by arguments," writer Robert Stevenson once said. This metaphor describes the relationship crises that every couple faces sooner or later. Can difficult periods be avoided? And what to do when they come?

1. The crisis of the first year
Tip: Open communication with your partner.

2. The crisis of the birth of a first-born child
Tip: Don't forget your role as a spouse by immersing yourself in parental roles.

3. Crisis of 7-9 years: "transition from intimacy to distance".
Tip: Don't forget to make time only for each other.

4. Crisis of 15 years: the teenager in the family
Tip: It's important to separate the relationship issues between the couple and the teenager.

5. Empty Nest Crisis: A second honeymoon?
Tip: Freedom from commitments to children will open up new possibilities for the couple. Open / Comment