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2022-05-21 18:00:09 ​What is deferred-life syndrome?

The syndrome or neurosis of postponed life is a condition of a person when he constantly lacks something to feel happy. He lives in constant anticipation of some event. In this case, the person does not enjoy the present, but is stuck thinking about the future.

Signs of Deferred Life Syndrome:
Living in anticipation of something: the end of the work day, a weekend, a vacation, a New Year's vacation.
To feel happy, you always lack something: to lose a few extra pounds, change your closet, quit your job, move to another apartment or country.
You live in anticipation of the right time: when you get higher education, move away from your parents, have children, close the mortgage or loan.
You're not excited about the present-you don't appreciate what you have.
You don't have a clear plan for what, when and how to change. For example, you don't like your current job, but you do nothing to find another one.
You are constantly comparing your own life with other people's - fixating on the fact that someone is slimmer or more successful, travels more often, earns more. All comparisons go against you.

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2022-05-21 14:00:10 Take the time to judge.

A beautiful little girl was holding two apples in her hands. Her mother walked into the room and gently, with a smile, asked her little princess, "Honey, would you mind giving your mommy one of the two apples?"

The little girl looked at her mother for a few seconds and then suddenly took a bite of one apple, followed quickly by another.

The woman felt a smile harden on her face and tried very hard not to show her disappointment. She was upset that her beloved daughter was not willing to share with her.

Suddenly the little girl held out one of the bitten apples and said: "Mama, take this one, it's sweeter!"

Moral: No matter how mature, experienced and knowledgeable you are, never rush to judge others. Give them a chance to explain themselves. What you see can be very misleading. Often seeing only the big picture will mislead us as to the true motives for the other person's actions.

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2022-05-20 18:00:10 I will gradually give you powerful tools to fight procrastination, but for now catch the first one

The moment you mentally "fly away" from the task at hand, try to figure out what you're hiding from. The fact about procrastination is that people go into it when they have resistance that they want to hide from.

Resistance can be an unpleasant person or a task that once was not resolved in your favor.

To begin with, it is worth analyzing what you are running from. Do not be lazy and write down in a notebook, what thoughts come into your head.

By the way, when people are distracted from the conversation on the phone to flip through the tape, it is also procrastination

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2022-05-20 14:00:08 ​Real happiness

Some people know how to be happy! From the simplest little things... They sit staring at the night stars, or listen to the sound of cicada in the park - and feel absolute, complete, uncontaminated happiness.

And no matter how much we teach them, we cannot explain to them that it is worth living like that. Enjoying every moment, every little thing.

We wake up in the morning alive, had a delicious breakfast, we look out the window, - and there is the world and any time of year, which is certainly beautiful. Which one? Any time!

Winter is beautiful with its snowfalls and Christmas trees in colorful lights.
Spring is beautiful with blossoming buds and twittering of birds returned from warm countries.
Summer - by lush greens, warmth and comfort as if growing from every blooming flower.
Autumn - with bright falling leaves and musical noise of rain...

Isn't it bliss to observe all this, just to be in it, just to live? To love your loved ones, to hope for the best, to expect more. But most importantly, to appreciate the present.

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2022-05-19 18:00:05 How do I develop my imagination as an adult?

If you have a goal to seriously engage your imagination, you can do so only by changing the usual way of life.

Namely:

- Listen to music with no words in it
- Read books
- Watch movies with a complicated plot
- Keep a diary
- Write by hand more often
- Play guessing games (such as crocodile)
- Draw
- Find a creative hobby
- Make up stories about situations in your life

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2022-05-19 14:00:04 The best gift you can give yourself is you

The best gift you can give yourself is learning to enjoy your own company.

To get to know yourself better every day, to find more and more things that amaze and delight you. To discover new sides of your unique world, to watch your growth and all the little changes with interest and quiet wonder.

To invent your own little daily rituals, to take care of yourself as your best friend, not to be too picky and to turn your imperfections into the unique.

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2022-05-18 18:00:10 The most developed area of people's lives in today's world is career.

Everyone strives to realize as many ideas as possible, to make a lot of money, to put it simply - successful success.

These are good desires, no doubt about it. But to realize them, it is very important to keep two more areas of life in order: rest and health. It depends on them whether you will have the energy for Napoleonic plans.

By the way, for women, the beauty sphere is also added to these two - the key sphere in a woman's life

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