UPSC MOTIVATION STATUS 🎯🇮🇳

2023-02-10 21:00:33 Support of loved ones

Become a reliable support for them at the right minute, help them find a way out of a crisis.
After all, support at the right time allows one to gain needed strength and move forward without getting stuck in the crisis and not falling into trauma.

At the same time, it is very important not to devalue or belittle the feelings of the person who is in front of you.
Do not start a dialogue with words like - "nothing terrible has happened, everything will be fine, but as for me / others ...", etc.

SAY THINGS LIKE:

- Let me come and be with you.
- I'm sorry about what happened. I'm here to help.
- It must be very hard what you are going through.
- I understand how difficult it is for you right now.
- I will always hear you out
- I'm here, and you can count on my support.
- I understand that you are worried. The situation is really difficult. And I am very sorry that this happened. Open / Comment

2023-02-10 14:00:44 Helplessness - where does it come from and why?

When a man hits a woman, a lot of people judge the woman. They say things like: why doesn’t she just leave him, this is totally stupid. But the reality is most of the times she CAN NOT, and the cause for her “immaturity” has a scientific explanation called “learned helplessness”

If a children’s parents beat them, morally abused them (humiliated them, raised them like tyrants), they got gradually used to enduring such relationship, because what other choice did they have? As a result, when the child turns into an adult and is placed in a similar environment, they “keep enduring the suffering”.

Thank God, not everyone is beaten by their parents or their husbands. However, learned helplessness can manifest in many other forms!
Millions of possibilities surround each and every one of us, but we don’t notice them because we have a stagnant perception of reality. Stepping out of the comfort zone isn’t easy, but it’s very beneficial and even necessary Open / Comment

2023-02-09 21:00:34 How to accept the situation?

It's a nightmare when...
you've been looking forward to something, and then the dream finally begins to come true, but a variety of FEARS suddenly come with it. Fears that something will go wrong, that nothing will work out. They don't let you sleep or even live...

What's to be done
Take a piece of paper and a pen.
For example, you're worried that your plans might go awry and you won't be able to go where you planned to go. Ask yourself the question, "What would I do if it happened?"
And give a clear answer: "I would stay home."

Then ask yourself, "What good changes could occur if it happened?" And answer, for example: "I would visit my sister, I promised her a long time ago."

The truth is, when you give your brain alternatives and imagine possible consequences following the particular action, anxiety is reduced and it becomes easier to accept the situation. Open / Comment

2023-02-09 14:00:42 Time management. The Alpen Method.

Workday planning not only helps us organize our day, but also use our work time efficiently and thus reduce it.

The main principles are:
Build your to-do list
Set priorities
Write down the priorities
Set aside some time for personal matters
Set clear goals

The ALPEN method

A - to-do list of all planned Activities
L - estimating Length of time
P - Planning buffer time
E - Establishing prioritized decisions
N - Noting down level of success

Make a list of activities. Write down out all the tasks that need to be done today.

Estimate how much time you need.

Plan for buffer time. Time when you do not occupy yourself with anything.

Prioritize tasks.
1. Important and urgent.
2. Important but not urgent.
3. Urgent but unimportant.
4. Neither important nor urgent.

Summarize. Open / Comment

2023-02-08 21:00:35 Don't jump to conclusions or decisions when you are angry or sad

If you're tired or depressed, if you're down on your luck or just had a bad day, if you're annoyed at people on public transport, don't jump to conclusions or make decisions.

You feel sure that you are always objective, and that all your thoughts are logically derived from each other, but in fact, they very much depend on your physical and emotional state.

So pull yourself together first, and only then contact anyone, make decisions, express your opinion, and try to find solutions. Open / Comment

2023-02-08 14:00:44 You don't need someone who doesn't respect you

The best response to people who don't respect you is: as long as they don't get in your way, don't care about them. They won't encourage your activities or help you become a better person.

Get rid of them as soon and quietly as possible. Otherwise, they will pull you dawn and prevent you from moving toward your goals.

As long as they don't hurt you, ignore them. People who don't respect you shouldn't even be allowed close to you. They're not your audience, they're not your pack, they're not your clients. You don't need them at all. Open / Comment

2023-02-07 21:00:33 It’s time to fall in love again or finally break up.

A time to change an old habit into a new habit or to destroy everything and start anew.
Spring is the best time for change.

You can fall in love in order to undergo a transformation.
Or you can do it without any reason.

You can choose to embrace your darkness or to nurture your inner light.

It's up to you whether you want to cultivate your fears or the opportunities that come your way. Open / Comment

2023-02-07 14:00:44 Trust takes time and sometimes even effort.
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Let's try to figure out what affects our ability and willingness to trust a loved one.
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Environment. Relatives, friends, the received information, the media space - all that influences our perception in some way. Society composes a perfect relationship model.
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Self-esteem. The lower your self-esteem, the less confident you feel in a relationship. Remember the great advice of Susanna from the well-known movie: "I am the most charming and attractive! All men are delighted with me..." Raise your self-esteem every single minute, because you are so exciting!
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Personal space. Don't try to pry into someone else's affairs, then yours won't be disturbed either. People always can find a way to let you know what they want you to know.
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Past experience. Yes, you can't escape it, it will always be at the back of your mind. But is it actually bad? By dealing with situations you didn't like, you can avoid repeating past mistakes. Open / Comment

2023-02-06 21:00:35 ​Some ways to help complete stress response cycle:

Physical activity. Any activity will work, as long as you move and breathe. If you're stressed but can't exercise right now, a breathing practice can help relieve tension.

Communication and laughter. By interacting with people, you send a message to your body that the world around you is safe. Just a short conversation, a warm hug or a sincere laugh is enough. By the way, you can complete stress response cycle not only with the help of people, but also spending time with animals. Sometimes petting a cat or going for a walk with a dog is the best remedy.

Another cure for stress is tears. Many of us have experienced episodes of sudden uncontrollable and inappropriate crying in response to a situation or someone's words.

Creativity. In general, all creative activities modulate and stimulate emotions. Think of it as a space where you can stop hiding your feelings. Both other people's creative work (music, books, theater) and your own creations are helpful. Open / Comment

2023-02-06 14:00:45 How to overcome the fear of change and start taking action?
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To do this, you need:
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To analyze the reasons of your fear (with a specialist, things will go faster).
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To find the "missing verbs" by remembering the past events. Namely, what specific actions were needed to get the result you wanted.
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To make a list of such "verbs" for the current situation, write them down. They will all mean specific actions toward pending goals.
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To divide all the steps into big and small ones. It is better to start with small ones, alternating them with big ones.
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If the fear comes back, divide the big step in half again.
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To support yourself emotionally all the way. Realize that you are working as well as you can.
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To notice the positives in your life and plan things with a good mood every morning by writing them down as tasks. Open / Comment