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2023-04-13 21:01:41 Why you can't be friends with only your partner: 4 reasons to expand your circle of communication - restore personal space

You live happily with the person you love and do not feel the need for other people, right? However, this situation is very dangerous. Communication with your partner can not replace other social connections, no matter how hard you try. We explain why it is necessary to have friends.

1. The opportunity to look at problems from a different angle
2. Confidence in yourself
3. intimacy
4. freedom from stress

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2023-04-13 16:01:27 12 foods that can (and even should) be eaten at bedtime: nutritionist recommendations

There are many reasons why you should avoid eating before bedtime. One of the main ones is a digestive disorder, and with it, a decrease in the quality of sleep. How else do night snacks affect health? In what cases are they necessary? And what can be eaten in such a situation? A nutritionist tells us.

It could be:

- cottage cheese in the form of cheesecakes or casserole without sugar - it contains easily digestible proteins and calcium (but must not be lactose intolerant);

- baked chicken fillet - it is low in fat and high in digestible protein;

- Eggs - they are rich in protein and other useful elements. The best form of consumption is a boiled egg "in a bag" or a poached egg;

- Greek yogurt - only that which contains a lot of easily digestible protein, magnesium and useful lactobacilli.

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2023-04-13 10:01:15 How to understand that you are in a relationship with "Peter Pan": 5 signs

And how to stop playing the role of Wendy in them.

"My partner can't (or pretends he can't) take care of himself, and depends on me for everything. It's like I'm his mother, and I have to look after him."

"My partner is unable to make any kind of adequate long-term plan for his life, as adults usually do."

"We've been dating for a very long time, and my boyfriend doesn't like me calling it a 'relationship.' It feels like he's afraid of any kind of commitment."

If you felt these phrases were right about you and your partner, you're probably dealing with a man who has "Peter Pan syndrome." He is the eternal "boy who doesn't want to grow up.

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2023-04-12 21:01:54 The wisdom of the past: Seneca's thoughts that are relevant today.

Become the master of your time
We should try to focus on the present, not to torment ourselves with regrets about the past and fear of the future, to live each day as if it were our last.

Seek simplicity
To get rid of the superfluous, to become simple - Seneca's advice to those who are busy with obsessions and fleeting pleasures, which later bring only disappointment.

Escape from common thinking.
It is important to find our own opinion (even if it condemns us to loneliness), to devote life to the development, interesting communication and useful meetings.

Create an inner "Citadel of Tranquility."
Not everything depends on our desires and efforts. This realization will help us learn to suffer less from inevitable calamities: illness, death, natural disasters, and strokes of fate.

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2023-04-12 16:01:51 "No time or energy to follow the advice of articles about burnout."

When we are stressed, we have a feeling of being overwhelmed and hopeless. Therefore, even if a person has other possibilities in reality, he/she does not notice them or denies them. To get out of the state you describe, it is important to take the following steps:

Become aware of how you want to live

This is a very important moment. It is the intention and understanding of where you are going that can pick up the right paths and tools for you.

Believe in yourself and start taking care of yourself

It's important to start repairing yourself if only by getting enough sleep, doing daily auto-training (just 10 minutes works for recovery like two hours of sleep), or adding whatever else your body needs most right now.

Realize that there is more to your future than just what makes you feel hopeless...

.What you work and live for in the first place. When a person knows "why," he will overcome any "how."

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2023-04-12 10:01:58 Each of us has at least a couple of acquaintances who could easily be called nerds. What do you think this kind of nerdiness is usually associated with?

The top five nerdy activities according to a University of Essex study are:
- data analysis;
- accounting;
- taxation/insurance;
- banking;
- cleaning (cleaning).

Also "unpopular," according to the data obtained, are people who are into observing animals, mathematics, religion, spending time watching TV, or sleeping a lot.

As the researchers emphasize, the purpose of the study is not to select categories of citizens for jokes or disdain, but to discover which professions and personal traits are stigmatized, even if one is engaged in a truly useful activity. What to do about such stigma is another question.

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2023-04-11 21:00:13 5 bad ways to end a relationship. What shouldn't you do?

Disappear.
It's a bad idea to leave in English, without saying goodbye or explaining anything. Respect the person's feelings at least out of gratitude for all you've been through together.

Take the blame.
There are two people involved in a relationship. So it is stupid and wrong to blame yourself for everything.

3 Blame your partner for everything.
If you say goodbye to a bunch of bad things, you will create a lot of man complexes. It is also not necessary to complain about the former chosen one to mutual friends.

4. Stalking
Intruding into your ex-partner's life after the relationship is over only prevents you from moving on. So try not to visit his page in social networks and do not learn from common friends the news.

5. Fantasizing about "what if I hadn't..."
It is wrong to think that if you had behaved differently in this or that situation, you would now be together.

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2023-04-11 16:01:12 How do you find the strength to move on?
A few simple tips.

At the end of the day it is better to look back and note what has been done, praise yourself for it, think of something small that could be done tomorrow, based on today's events. And so move forward in small steps to establish continuous movement and pull yourself out of the pit of self-blame and unrealized opportunities.

Seek support from friends and family. Share your plans with those you trust. In discussion, you can get practical advice, help, and build confidence.

You can also do something together with your loved ones. For example, if you decide to run in the morning, the two or three of us will be easier to start. And it is more difficult to refuse to do something if you have already agreed with someone.

The main thing is to start and everything will work out!

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2023-04-11 10:00:41 4 steps to peace of mind.

1. write down your experiences on paper
Take pen and paper and write down everything that comes into your head. Allow yourself to pour out or cry out your emotions on paper for as long as you need to.

2. Share what's in your heart
Something incredible happens when you tell others what you're going through. To say, "I'm very sad today," and to talk about your feelings, you have to "get" the underlying feelings, and that helps.

3. Practice meditation.
Strong feelings take control of the brain, and we stop controlling ourselves. Thoughts run in torrents and become negative and disorderly. Meditation is a way to regain control of the brain.

4. Work through your feelings.
This involves being with your feelings, understanding exactly what you are experiencing and why and what the emotions want to tell you. By describing your feelings, talking about them, and meditating, you are doing what your emotional area needs to do.

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2023-04-10 21:02:07 Eating disorders, of which bulimia, anorexia and impulsive overeating are the best known, affect men and women of all ages. Moreover, unlike most other mental disorders, BPD can pose a great danger not only to a person's mental but also to his or her physical health.

And remember, only a specialist can make an accurate diagnosis.

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